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Scottiebear Fri 05-Jul-19 11:04:38

Went to see Gladys Knight in Cardiff Motorpoint Arena last night. We had very good seats. Fabulous concert. But am I alone in finding there are always some people who have little consideration for other attendees? We watched the support act. There was a gap of about 20 mins before Gladys started. A dozen empty seats in front of us into which traipsed a group of youngish women just as she was about to start. Took a while for them to settle down and decide who was sitting where. Gladys started talking and so did one of the women, loudly to her friend. Eventually lady behind her asked her to be quiet. From the second song onwards a lady two rows in front and few seats along was standing waving arms in air, blocking lady behinds view. Eventually she asked her to sit, which she did. I have no objection to people taking a few photos or little video. I like a couple myself. But I do it with consideration for others. I waited till the end, took 2 quick pics and put my phone away. The women in front were taking pictures and video off and on all night, despite ushers constantly signalling them to stop. And SELFIES!!? Why? Take them on the bus or train home. The man next to my husband had his phone on a lot, lit up down on his lap. Don't know if he was recording or just watching his media. Very distracting. Then one of the women in front decides to go to the bar for a drink, so everyone in front had to get up and let her by. Repeated five minutes later on her return. At least, on this occasion, at least we weren't subjected to the shrill, ear piercing, whistling that some people feel is necessary at the end of every song. Its painful if they are seated close to you. Tickets are not cheap for these events and I just want to get lost in the music. Ive been to a concert where people were thrown out right at the start because they were so drunk. What is the point of paying a lot of money for tickets and then getting bladdered. Am I being bah humbug or do others feel just as strongly as I do?

Nonnie Fri 05-Jul-19 11:37:55

Do you feel better now you have got that off your chest? grin

Actually I think you were quite lucky because the last few concerts we have been to people have stood up and stayed there for most of the concert. I am not very tall so I end up just looking at the big screen.

Watching the tennis on TV the other day I saw 4 people dressed as tellytubbies with big ears coming out the top of their heads which must have annoyed those behind.

I wish we could go back to the days when theatres didn't allow people to go in and out during the performance. I can never understand why people can't go an hour or so without eating and drinking. I suppose they allow drinks in to help pay for the shows.

EllanVannin Fri 05-Jul-19 11:48:09

Koff------that's freedom for you whether you like it or not, it's not going to stop. You pays yer ticket and takes yer chances I'm afraid or not bother going.
People's enjoyment now is a far-cry from how it used to be so for that, you have to accept.

Complaining would get you nowhere !

Scottiebear Fri 05-Jul-19 12:01:16

Nonnie. Love to get up and dance myself. And there are venues we go to where it's not a problem. Good to have mixture of standing or seated areas, but last night was purely seated. I think my main bug bear is lit up mobiles constantly appearing in front of me, but I guess that's just something we just have to accept. But still think selfies during a concert in a dark hall are ludicrous. 😁

Gonegirl Fri 05-Jul-19 12:19:05

That's the trouble with theatre visits, and concerts. The other flippin' people. hmm

Gonegirl Fri 05-Jul-19 12:19:30

That wasn't meant sarcastically. I meant it.

Scottiebear Fri 05-Jul-19 12:43:25

I must add that I've been to concerts where I've sat next to people who sit like statues all night. No joy in them. I'm not one of those. I clap, dance when I can, and sing along enthusiastically. In fact probably people could complain about my pretty bad, tuneless, singing! 😁

Scottiebear Fri 05-Jul-19 12:49:25

Strange. Twice I've posted smiley faces but when they actually post on site they are appearing as cross faces. They Should be happy, smiling ones.

paddyann Fri 05-Jul-19 13:09:40

wish there was a like button for that Scottiebear you go to a concert not just to listen but to be part of it .I remember many years ago taking my daughter to see Stevie Wonder ,and there was a man in the audience who was obviously Stevie's biggest fan and chatted to him all night from his seat was hilarious and the guy had a ball .My daughter was only about 6 and we took her because Is'nt she Lovely was playing when she was she wanted to tell Stevie that too

eazybee Fri 05-Jul-19 13:53:57

When the title said Concert I assumed it referred to a music concert. Surprising how the audience for the symphony orchestras are able to enjoy the music without chatting, taking selfies and constantly collecting drinks, let alone waving their arms in the air.
Down to upbringing.

Nonnie Fri 05-Jul-19 16:01:38

Scottie I was talking about seated concerts too!

eazy yes, ballet and opera too. It is also interesting that with classical concerts many people clap at the end of the movement instead of waiting for the end. I don't mind, it probably means they are not used to going to such concerts yet and will learn.

Cabbie21 Fri 05-Jul-19 16:10:30

A recent trend is to make classical concerts more accessible, by including speech eg short introductions to pieces, excerpts instead of whole works, and even audience participation. Fine, sometimes, but nothing beats the serious performance of whole works, uninterrupted.

Gonegirl Fri 05-Jul-19 16:25:04

I can't somehow imagine people standing up and joining in with a bit of ballet with their seats tipped up. Would be interesting.

Nannyxthree Fri 05-Jul-19 16:30:17

I don't like the ear piercing whistles and screams which seem to be vital to some peoples enjoyment of live music. I've found that as I've got deafer these shrill sounds hurt my ear drum more than when my hearing was good!

Grammaretto Fri 05-Jul-19 16:44:04

My rant is the culture of movie going today where people go in with enormous pouches of popcorn and fizzy drinks.
And those who keep their phones on.....
I watched Mrs Lowry and Son, last Sunday sitting next to a woman who was also watching a cricket match on her phone. What's that about!!!
And at the theatre the other week, I was sitting next to another annoying female who ate a whole bag of scrunchy sweets and didnt offer me one and when she'd finished she began to fiddle nervously with her scarf. I had to use my programme as a shield.

Rosina Sat 06-Jul-19 10:14:21

I have given up completely on concerts and the cinema - I buy the DVD when it comes out for any film I think I might like. Having experienced so much noise at a concert that was sooo expensive a few years back, and tried to tolerate talking, eating, pushing in and out of rows of seats I left a film half way through and decided never again. It's rude and selfish, but unless you want a major row or worse there is no answer to this. A work colleague told me that her daughter and companion spent some time sending ring tones to each other in the cinema as they didn't like the film. Eventually they were told to leave and given the ticket money back, but they had doubtlessly ruined the film for the rest of the audience. She thought this was funny.

dragonfly46 Sat 06-Jul-19 10:20:50

We paid a fortune to see Neil Diamond and I was astonished at how many people just wandered around getting drinks etc while he was performing.
A couple of years ago we went to see Bob Dylan, again very expensive seat and the middle aged couple behind us talked the whole way through about nothing in particular. They would have been better going to the pub!

sandelf Sat 06-Jul-19 10:21:50

Our local church - a couple (elderly) were having a special service to celebrate their 60th anniversary. Various relatives who don't normally go to church attended. One couple (and their children who can't be blamed) did not understand that you do not chat and take selfies and videos through prayers and hymns. And they did not have the nous just to try to go along with what others around them did. I suppose the consolation is that at least they have been inside a church once.

Callistemon Sat 06-Jul-19 10:38:40

I can't somehow imagine people standing up and joining in with a bit of ballet with their seats tipped up. Would be interesting.
DD is taking me to the ballet later in the year - should I wear my tutu in case I feel like doing a pirouette?

I do know how you feel, though Scottie - I did comment, even watching Glastonbury, about the number of young women on others' shoulders, blocking the view of anyone behind them.
The last concert we went to everyone seemed very well behaved, the young people next to us, who were next to the aisle, got up and bopped in the aisle and it was delightful to watch!!

Kim19 Sat 06-Jul-19 11:08:21

Went to a gig with my friend last year. Hugely anticipated. From minute one of the lads' appearance on stage all the audience (mostly female) stood up. The stage was elevated and the arena seating was on the flat. Not a chance of either of us seeing at all. We gave it about 20 minutes 'in hope' but these people obviously had more energy - certainly not enthusiasm - than us so we sadly took our leave. A costly learning experience indeed.

Scottiebear Sat 06-Jul-19 11:21:01

Callistemon. I love to get up and dance too. Its a joy. And singing. Everyone was singing. It was wonderful. And I love the atmosphere of other like minded people enjoying themselves which is why i love live events. But I try to be mindful of others. The annoying thing was the ushers were in the aisle gesturing to them to turn off their phones, so they were nudging one another along the line, hiding their phones, but then getting them out again a few minutes later. Just distracting and irritating.

Nannarose Sat 06-Jul-19 11:24:36

I never go to large concert venues, except the odd festival where you really don't expect people to sit and be quiet. Even the festivals I go to are the smaller ones.

We go to small local venues, which often attract very good artists (if not 'big names'). I get the impression that people are quieter and more considerate. I certainly enjoy myself at these events where we typically pay between £8-18 and are home within 10-30 minutes!

When I hear some people talk about huge concert venues, it seems they are there for an 'outing' not to listen to the music.

dogsmother Sat 06-Jul-19 11:25:12

I too get really disturbed by people who just go and chat amongst themselves and spoil the enjoyment of others around them. I had this at a tribute act I was totally furious I was despairing of my small dance space being ever encroached and all these ladies wanted to do was stand in a circle and chat and were totally disinterested I have no idea why they bothered coming along....

Diane227 Sat 06-Jul-19 11:40:48

I dont understand the concept of large arenas where , unless you are lucky enough to have prime seats, you see the artist as a tiny dot or on screen. People say its about the atmosphere but surely its about being able to see the performance first hand.
I think its the greed of the organisers.

Joyfulnanna Sat 06-Jul-19 11:40:52

Scottiebear, I'm with you on all the points you raised. Totally agree.