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Non gender fear of faux pas

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GlamM Sun 15-Sep-19 19:02:23

Evening GN

I wondered if anyone else has had the ‘ fear ‘ when congratulating new parents on the arrival of their little bundle of joy.

Despite rehearsing ‘ they’ I still put my bloody foot in it and said ‘ he ‘ it was not intentional but every time I got enthused about said littleone I messed up. I ended up slinking off mortified and dreading that I had deeply offended the parents.

Anyone else had a ‘ I wish the earth would swallow me up ‘ moment.

GagaJo Mon 16-Sep-19 22:29:19

I watched the videoclip about the parents raising the child as gender neutral and I thought it was fairly sensible.

They just wanted their child to develop into whoever the child themselves thought they were with no gender assumptions being made by people outside the family. Fair enough.

All this 'Oh she's a pretty girl' or 'He's a big strong boy' stuff is quite extreme socialisation really.