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Baggs Wed 05-Aug-20 11:32:28

Is it polite to have your cleavage on display at a funeral?

Sparklefizz Wed 05-Aug-20 11:34:21

Not very respectful, I would say.

BBbevan Wed 05-Aug-20 11:35:14

Depends how much. But in general no it is not polite

lovebeigecardigans1955 Wed 05-Aug-20 11:41:04

It's not very appropriate, is it? Modesty is probably better.

GagaJo Wed 05-Aug-20 11:50:17

Although, if the person is big boobed, it can be hard not to have cleavage.

Calendargirl Wed 05-Aug-20 11:54:32

Only time I ever had anything remotely resembling a cleavage was when I was pregnant.

So I never have to worry if it is appropriate to show mine.

GrannyGravy13 Wed 05-Aug-20 11:55:23

I am —cursed— blessed with an ample bosom. I am only 5’2” with a small frame, it is a constant battle to keep them under control

geekesse Wed 05-Aug-20 11:55:26

Should one assume that the OP has observed a person at a funeral whose cleavage was visible, and is seeking confirmation of their own judgement?

lemongrove Wed 05-Aug-20 11:56:02

.....but can still be covered up!
No, it isn’t respectful at all, but sadly many people have no sense of occasion.I saw recently that a female guest at a very formal wedding was wearing jeans and a vest top.

GrannyGravy13 Wed 05-Aug-20 12:08:11

A wrap is really useful (cashmere/wool in winter cotton/silk in summer)

I have been thinking that maybe it is the amount of cleavage on display which could cause eyebrows to raise 👀

Glorybee Wed 05-Aug-20 12:08:18

Why would you want to put boobage on display at a funeral? I too think it’s disrespectful, unless you were very close to the deceased and they had specified it in their wishes!

timetogo2016 Wed 05-Aug-20 12:11:01

Totaly disrepectable.

lemongrove Wed 05-Aug-20 12:12:48

🤣Glorybee I must consult Lord Lemongrove on his wishes
He may well like all the women present at his funeral to have their cleavage on show.🤔

Oldwoman70 Wed 05-Aug-20 12:15:08

I went to a funeral where the girlfriend of the deceased's son wore a white, very low cut, very short lace dress - she was totally oblivious of the disapproving comments and looks she was getting and no the deceased person would not have been impressed!

mrsgreenfingers56 Wed 05-Aug-20 12:15:52

Would find very inappropriate indeed. Just not respectful and if you are big chested then can easily wear a blouse or top that is higher. I went to a wedding and the cleavage on display from one guest was just tacky, she was nearly falling out of her top and almost showing her nipples.

annodomini Wed 05-Aug-20 12:17:33

Please, Baggs, let us know why you posed this question.

Lucca Wed 05-Aug-20 12:18:17

Is Baggs looking for the go-ahead to display hers or has someone else done so and upset her ?

GagaJo Wed 05-Aug-20 12:23:04

A neckline, that on an average boobed person would be half way up your chest, will by the force of frontage weight, be dragged lower on a well endowed lady. I used to have big boobs and at times had to add a fake camisole front to fill an otherwise higher neckline to a modest level.

GrannyGravy13 Wed 05-Aug-20 12:30:35

GagaJo

A neckline, that on an average boobed person would be half way up your chest, will by the force of frontage weight, be dragged lower on a well endowed lady. I used to have big boobs and at times had to add a fake camisole front to fill an otherwise higher neckline to a modest level.

I agree, stylists tell bigger bosomed ladies to wear V necked dresses / jumpers and I have to wear a cami under the majority of jumpers.

As for wrap dresses !!!!!!

Marydoll Wed 05-Aug-20 12:35:54

Having met Baggs on a number of occasions, I don't think it's her with the cleavage on show. wink
However, we are living in unusual times. Nothing surprises me anymore! grin

Glorybee Wed 05-Aug-20 12:44:12

I should’ve made it clear mine was a rhetorical question, not aimed at Baggs 😊. Lemongrove - if Lord Lemon made such a request, it could possibly be a funeral first!

Bridgeit Wed 05-Aug-20 12:45:21

Well I suppose it may may have provided a momentary distraction from the sadness of the occasion, but to me it would seem a little disrespectful & impolite.

Pantglas2 Wed 05-Aug-20 12:47:47

As another who’s been blessed/cursed in that department I wouldn’t dream of showing any cleavage at a funeral- it’s not difficult to choose a top with a higher neckline.

Iam64 Wed 05-Aug-20 12:53:54

I'm in the no cleavage gang but I always dress modestly (don't laugh at the back) for funerals. Sleeves and shirts or a frock which does not have a low neck or an above the knee skirt line. I don't dress in what I suppose could be called a conservative way in ordinary life but I do respect conventions.

sodapop Wed 05-Aug-20 12:54:12

Definitely inappropriate and disrespectful.
Could of course be jealousy on my part not having a decent cleavage to display. Why do you ask Baggs ?