We moved to be closer to dds, our hearts wanted to be back in cumbria but we also wanted to be involved with dgc. We moved from s wales because my husbands job had taken him there and that was our family home for over 30 years. We were 45 miles from each dd, that was 2010 and it has been nice, close but not too close
The children are teenage and pre teenage now and almost independent, I was widowed and just do an occasional babysit for emergency work cover in the day. I moved myself in 2019, to somewhere in the same area as before but with a few shops and buses and then covid struck and things have changed. The shops changed, groups stopped and this was the year I did not get to make new friends
So now I am 72 and wishing I was back in the part of cumbria that I knew well. My family are always there for me but they have their own lives to live and they do. OP if I could turn the clock back, we should both have moved back to cumbria in 2010, we could have been well settled and still have seen our dgc and dds but stayed for a few days instead of popping there
Now OP I have a similar dilemma in reverse to you, I want to go to cumbria and maybe I will but maybe it is too late. If I were you, I would not do it