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senryu Mon 18-Jan-21 09:58:41

What's the strangest or most ridiculous advice you've been given?

BigBertha1 Mon 18-Jan-21 10:21:09

Lose weight!

crazyH Mon 18-Jan-21 10:24:08

BigBertha - how rude that person was !!

EllanVannin Mon 18-Jan-21 10:30:05

Nobody dare grin

GagaJo Mon 18-Jan-21 10:36:09

Yes, diet and exercise.

Or relationship advice. Often from people with chaotic relationships themselves.

From my daughter, ways I need to help her, while definitely believing I have interfered too much in her life. (A lose, lose, situation).

Peasblossom Mon 18-Jan-21 10:49:57

“That’s enough. No more children”

My mother-in-law.

Baggs Mon 18-Jan-21 11:06:47


BigBertha - how rude that person was !!

Not sure a GP saying that to an obese patient is being rude. I don't regard it as any ruder than, say, "Take this medicine".

Kate1949 Mon 18-Jan-21 11:12:14

'Stop being upset about your alopecia. It's only hair'. This from someone with lovely thick hair.

Grandmabatty Mon 18-Jan-21 19:15:36

My brother constantly offers advice, particularly when he knows nothing about the subject. He could get a certificate in mansplaining.

crazyH Mon 18-Jan-21 19:20:58

Baggs - have I missed something? Was it Big Bertha’s GP who said that to her?

Redhead56 Mon 18-Jan-21 19:33:12

People who know me would refrain from giving me advice as I am very feisty.

Moggycuddler Tue 19-Jan-21 10:10:37

Put a potato in a sock under your bottom bedsheet to cure aching, restless legs. I actually tried it. Didn't work.

KerryS Tue 19-Jan-21 10:14:41

A 39 year old single childless person (who doesn't even work with children!) giving me advice on a number of occasions on how to bring up children! (I have 5)

Esuriosa Tue 19-Jan-21 10:17:04

One of the worst pieces of advice I was given when I was young and setting up on my own was Don't pay your gas, electricity and phone bills until they threaten to cut you off.
Never did it.

Theoddbird Tue 19-Jan-21 10:19:21

Not advice as such but back in 1976 I phoned my mother to tell her I was pregnant. Her response...why do you want a have two cats...

readsalot Tue 19-Jan-21 10:22:28

Don't wash your hair or have a bath when you have your period! My best friend in the late sixties. I ignored her.

M0nica Tue 19-Jan-21 10:24:42

Best friend lecturing me on how I cannot rely anything google brings up in a search. I tried pointing out that as my career had been based on researching and verifying information. I was well-up on this topic, but she over rode me, she knew better than I did.

In 65 years of friendship I came nearer to putting the phone down on her than I ever have in the past.

BigBertha1 Tue 19-Jan-21 10:24:54

It was my mother.

Oldwoman70 Tue 19-Jan-21 10:25:25

A "friend" phoned to find out why I wasn't at work - told her I had been diagnosed with severe depression her reply was to pull myself together as I had nothing to be depressed about! She then went on to tell me all the things wrong in her life - not surprisingly we are no longer friends.

Phloembundle Tue 19-Jan-21 10:27:12

Not me , but a neighbour. She was telling me that her son had sunburn and someone had told her that the best way to treat it was for him to have a really hot shower! I looked at her and slowly said,"That's just about the worst piece of advice I have ever heard". It still is.

helgawills Tue 19-Jan-21 10:40:38

When I was in my 40s I went through a phase of struggling to find work. My mother kept telling me, to say I was 10 years younger. In her working days you did not need passports and other id to get work.

Gingerbit Tue 19-Jan-21 10:53:36

Don't marry him but I did 55 yrs ago still happy

timetogo2016 Tue 19-Jan-21 10:53:57

Just pretend it didn`t happen,it won`t hurt as much.

annifrance Tue 19-Jan-21 10:55:32

When I was newly divorced and needing support and help with two small children, my mother told me that I needed to practise being on my own!!! knowing I would have to work she said she had washed up to show me how to save about 30p by not using the dishwasher. this from a woman who never worked, had well sufficient money, home help twice a week, dishwasher egg and didn't drive so never needed to drive her only child anywhere!!! at the same time my retired father , when I asked him if he would mow my lawn while I was a t work, said he had his own work to do and I needed to get a routine!

inishowen Tue 19-Jan-21 10:56:26

When I was in my thirties my skinny doctor asked what weight I was. I said 10 stone. He said, lose a stone. I was fit and healthy and he had no justification for telling me to lose weight. It actually started a life long battle, joining slimming clubs. All unnecessary.