I’m 53 and for the past 10 years, I have been in a very unhappy relationship with my son’s Dad. We own a house together and for her most part we get on in order to keep things civil. We do sleep in separate rooms and haven’t had any kind of physical relationship for over 10 years. I cook for myself and my son and he cooks for himself. I practically live in my bedroom as we have nothing to say to each other.
My son is now 16 and he understands that I am miserable and ready to move on. his Dad has agreed to buy me out of the house, giving me enough money to buy a little flat of my own with space for my son to live me with if or when he chooses. Everyone is happy with the arrangement and it’s actually quite exciting to think that, at last, I can find myself and build a new life with, possibly, a new relationship.
However, I cannot afford to live in this town as it’s expensive. I am looking at a nearby town which is a 30 min drive away. This is causing my 75 year old Mum who has recently been very ill, a lot of anxiety. She does live with her husband ( my stepdad) and he takes good care of her but she is upset that I am moving away. I only see her at weekends as it is and this won’t change but she wants me close by.
I now feel really selfish about wanting a fresh start for myself and am starting to think I should endure my life as it is for a few years more in order to be closer to Mum.
Am I being selfish?
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