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Alternatives to standing at a formal event

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ElderlyPerson Sat 10-Apr-21 08:49:03

At the start of a wedding ceremony, and at various other formal events, people present are often asked to stand while a formal entrance is made. And when The National Anthem is played.

For someone sat in a wheelchair this is often impossible.

For some people who might be getting old they might not be in a wheelchair, but having been helped to sit down and to get up later, perhaps rather slowly, this could be awkward.

Yet all might not want to feel out of participation and would like to show respect.

I know it is not an ideal solution as not everybody could do it, but I wonder if there could be a known conventional way for a person unable to stand, or unable to promptly stand without help, to participate and show respect rather than just sitting there.

So, to start a discussion and maybe cause other ideas to be put forward and discussed, here is my idea, though it may not be suitable, which is why I am asking.

How about if someone places his or her right hand on his or her left shoulder?

I did notice that at the 2012 paralympics on television that people were asked to stand if you are able to do so. Perhaps that ought to be common polite practice at all events.

NotSpaghetti Sat 10-Apr-21 09:28:31

What a good, inclusive idea - stand if you are able to do so.

CafeAuLait Sat 10-Apr-21 09:36:41

Maybe hand on heart?

annsixty Sat 10-Apr-21 09:38:41

When my mother died aged 101 several of the family were older , though none anywhere near as old as her, my H and I were in our seventies though quite fit then.
That is what the minister said * NotSpagetti* “please stand if you are able” it made the less able feel very comfortable.
I feel It should be more used.

ElderlyPerson Sat 10-Apr-21 10:33:12


Maybe hand on heart?

Good idea. Citizens of the United States of America do that when their National Anthem is played - though I am not sure if they do if they are in military uniform - do they salute in that case?

grandtanteJE65 Sun 11-Apr-21 11:25:09

I am sure we all understand that those who remain seated would stand up if they could.

Putting your hand on your heart is fine, but those behind you cannot see you are doing so.

I find "Please stand up if you are able" patronising rather than inclusive.

Blossoming Sun 11-Apr-21 12:15:54

I like Please stand if you are able. I think it’s inclusive and courteous and I like that somebody has considered those of us who can’t be bobbing up and down. I can’t kneel either.