I believe a lot of people do consider whether they want to marry, or form some other kind of committed relationship, before deciding to have children.
Admittedly, I have not checked the most recent statistics, but I personally know no women who decided just to go ahead and have a baby without involving the father of the child.
I do, however, know of women who discovered, as a certain percentage of women have always done, that the man responsible for fathering the child didn't want either the child or the responsibility, but this too is fairly rare.
However, a lot of men and women, both in our young days and in the two generations that have followed us, either do not believe in marriage, or see no need to worry about whether they marry first and have a child second, or have a child and then at some later date decide to marry.
Quite honestly, as long as the couple in question are prepared to take responsibility for each other and for a child or children, I do not consider it my business to comment on whether they are married or not.
If asked for advice, I would, however, feel bound to point out that legally there is a great deal of difference between being a married couple and the married parents of your children and being a co-habiting couple, with or without children. It is easier to safeguard each other and ones children as well as more straightforward concerning property and inheritance if you marry than if you don't.
My own preference has always been for a stable marriage as the frame for having and bringing up children, but I would never dream of ramming this down other peoples' throats.
I am very well-aware that marriage is not always possible or sustainable.
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