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90 yr old birthday gift

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Balthazar Fri 20-May-22 20:56:02

My dear old dad is 90 in June, fit as a fiddle he is having a joint birthday party with my 87 yr old step mother. He says (as usual) he doesn't want any gifts, even though my brother is doing a photo album (miffed my sister!) and BIL has got him some fancy whiskey. I have showered him with knitted offerings in the past but am now competely flummoxed, should I just get him nothing?! p.s. I shall be flying over so no marble statues!

Grandmadinosaur Fri 20-May-22 21:05:59

For one of my big birthdays I received a cushion with lots of photographs of myself and various family members and friends. It sits with pride in my favourite chair. I love it.

CanadianGran Fri 20-May-22 21:16:17

Something he likes to eat or drink, or comfortable clothing. Some nice pyjamas or slippers, or a warm sweater with larger buttons.

Grannynannywanny Fri 20-May-22 21:23:11

My Dad had a treasured black and white photo of himself aged 20 proudly posing with his new bicycle. For his 90th birthday I had the photo printed onto a mug. He was delighted with it. I now have it in my kitchen cupboard but don’t use it in case I break it.

Urmstongran Fri 20-May-22 22:06:30

Ooh I shall watch this thread with interest as my stepfather will be 90y in a few weeks. I’d like some ideas too.

Esspee Fri 20-May-22 23:13:58

You can buy a beautiful whisky glass and have it engraved. We did that for a friend’s 80th and he loved it. He has a small nip every night before bed and said it makes his dram special.

geekesse Sat 21-May-22 18:02:53

If your memories with him are good ones, why not compile a collection of memories? Ask family members and friends to record something that made them laugh, or an account of a special occasion with him. Add in pictures of places that mark parts of his life, souvenirs, stuff like that. You can do it in a scrapbook or as a video.

A friend of mine recently asked all her Dad’s friends, going way back to old school chums, to record a short video, and then she edited it together with pictures, for example, of the house he was born in and the playground of his primary school. It took her a bit of time and some travelling to get all the pictures, but the end result was a very joyful celebration of his life. I’m sure it’s better to do that while someone is still around to enjoy it. Too often we save our memories of people for their funerals.

Jaberwok Mon 23-May-22 11:51:22

What a nice thread this is. Sadly all my old folk are dead now, the last of Covid in 2020, but reading about these gifts has made me feel how ideal and thoughtful they are. My stepfather would have loved the whisky glass!!