Yes - I am lucky to have a good OH - he does all the housework (cleaning, laundry) and the gardening (within severe constraints as he has PD). I do the shopping, cooking and organising!
Like most of us, there have been ups and downs (OH suffered/s with depression and anxiety which can be a challenge to live with, and I am sure that not all my character traits are a rest cure for him!), but we have muddled through.
I do think that it is important to remember that taking each other for granted is part of the stuff of a long term relationship and is not to be denigrated - it is a sign of security and happily rubbing along together. I think this is important for widowed people to remember - or they might feel guilty unnecessarily.
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