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How would you define pornography?

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Greatnan Tue 26-Jun-12 09:35:53

I make a distinction between erotica and pornography. The former I take to mean the depiction of sexual acts between consenting adults. The latter would cover all depiction of sexual acts that involve an element of coercion, or where the participants are under age.
This would mean that something I would consider erotic might well offend some people because they do not approve of that particular activity (sado-masochism, for example).
I have to say that I find all descriptions of sex to be boring, unless they are necessary to illuminate somebody's character or circumstances, but I would not try to stop anybody else reading/watching it.

Anagram Wed 27-Jun-12 17:38:19

I think both your posts are spot-on, absent.

absentgrana Wed 27-Jun-12 17:02:04

What I should have added is that it is the dehumanisation (usually of women) that makes pornography pernicious and, sometime, downright harmful.

absentgrana Wed 27-Jun-12 16:44:26

I think the defining characteristic of pornography is dehumanisation. That's probably why some people consider The Story of O distressing – her existence and her very humanity are reduced to an orifice and an initial.

Anagram Tue 26-Jun-12 22:05:12

Hmm...haven't we been here before? The pig's orgasm springs to mind....! grin

nanaej Tue 26-Jun-12 22:03:58

I had a badge once 'Gay whales against racism' !!

jeni Tue 26-Jun-12 21:58:16

I heard that one! It was very interesting. They say animals just do it! They are not aware of sex really. Just the ?pleasure, was the impression I got!

Mishap Tue 26-Jun-12 21:55:28

Today's radio 4 had a programme on the sex life of animals, postulating that they don't just do it for procreation, but also for fun - and that many species are known to engage on homosexual activity. I had to park the car at the point when gay whales were under discussion and missed the rest.

jeni Tue 26-Jun-12 21:49:07

I think this book is earlier. Will check date of publication. Haven't read it for 55years! It's just useful for all sorts of purposes. Helping weight down a summer pudding?

Greatnan Tue 26-Jun-12 21:44:38

Poor serious Margaret Mead, who wrote 'Coming of Age in Samoa', was apparently totally taken in by the young women she interviewed, who jokingly 'sexed up' their account of their courtship rituals. The book used to be kept 'under the counter' at my local library, along with other books considered too racy for the hoi poloi.

Anagram Tue 26-Jun-12 19:57:13

I've got that too, Maniac. As you say, it is erotic, but I don't think I ever finished it as it all got a bit samey after a while!

jeni Tue 26-Jun-12 19:44:32

I've got 'the sexual life of savages' neither porn or erotica! Anthropology!

Maniac Tue 26-Jun-12 19:38:09

Somewhere on my bookshelves I've still got a copy of'Delta of Venus' by Anais Nin.bought in 1980. Very erotica!

HildaW Tue 26-Jun-12 17:17:01

Quite right too Greatnan. Tis a private thing not a spectator sport. I think my understanding or erotica is that, unlike pornography, no one is being demeaned or used to acheive the results. Though I am sure its a highly subjective subject. What might seem delightfully titillating to one could be abusive and revolting to others.
I think I'm still a tad innocent as was thrilled by both Barbara Cartland (as a 14 year old) and Georgette Heyer when a coulple of years older. Jane Eyre seemed delightfully dark and passionate to me. Madame Bovary annoyed the hell out of me but that mad ride in the carriage did get just a little steamy.

Anagram Tue 26-Jun-12 17:03:39

I probably would have done, too, if I'd read it.

Greatnan Tue 26-Jun-12 16:36:01

I read The Story of O in France. I found the true story of Nazi atrocities in
The Scourge of the Swastika by Lord Russell of Liverpool much more
disturbing when I was 13.

Anagram Tue 26-Jun-12 16:23:44

I read it in my youth, petallus. Left me cold - but I did find it rather disturbing that others obviously enjoyed it.

petallus Tue 26-Jun-12 16:21:06

Did anyone ever read 'Story of 'O'?

I hate watching sex scenes on tv as well. I wouldn't stare at people having sex in real life, or even just kissing as they sometimes do on the train, so why should I on film?

I have watched a few porn films in the past and find them horribly jading.

Greatnan Tue 26-Jun-12 16:16:11

As one critic said - 'Jane gently but firmly closes the bedroom door on us after her couple are married' - and quite right too.

jeni Tue 26-Jun-12 16:00:32

The giggle gap!

Mishap Tue 26-Jun-12 15:08:34

I'd really rather use my imagination - it seems to work very well in this context!

There was an item on Woman's Hour last week about the Bad Sex in Literature awards - very funny. I am sure, as someone else has said, that editors encourage a bit of titillation and far more detail than the author might originally have chosen.

I also get slightly irritated that an otherwise excellent book (particularly - at the risk of being branded sexist - that is written by a man) can have gratuitous sex scenes that really do not connect to or add anything to the plot. They just seem to have been added for the benefit of the author or editor.

There are lots of things that most authors do not feel tempted to include in detail (e.g. bowel emptying/sanitary protection - use of/c;cleaning the shower etc.) because we all know what it entails and do not need the detail. Sometimes these things, and sex scenes, might usefully be included in more detail, but only when they further the plot or the understanding of the characters.

Glimpses of stocking indeed - that is where my OH came in! He still waxes lyrical about the girls in his class when he was a teenager and the wee glimpses that brightened his day!

jeni Tue 26-Jun-12 14:57:03

Inolden days a glimpse of stocking?

Annobel Tue 26-Jun-12 14:44:51

A hint can be far more titillating than an all out sex scene. Makes you use your imagination! Just your bad luck if you don't have one.

glassortwo Tue 26-Jun-12 14:05:51

Nothing worse than bad book sex grace everyone is on about these Shades of grey books, but think they come under the same category erotica.

jeni Tue 26-Jun-12 13:54:46

I don't remember ANY sex on Jane Austen?

Joan Tue 26-Jun-12 13:33:48

I've seen the occasional sex film in the past - legal ones from the local video store -and I soon nicknamed them 'plumbers manuals' as that's all they are: various positions of inserting A into B or C or D........

Boring - in all senses of the word.