Telling our sad stories

Sorry, Littlenellie - I'd forgotten that you'd maybe not have realised that I'd been 'someone else' before - I'm no longer as 'green' as I was!

And no.....never, ever forgotten, bless them. xx

We certainly do marelli I have worked out now who you are...life does go on,and eventually the sun shines again dosent it...gone but not forgottenxxxxxx

Nellie.....it's so very, very hard, but we get there.

I keep coming to this thread and backing off again,trying to find the words to say,I feel the pain experienced and indeed have experienced it myself,and still do at times,birthdays and anniversaries are hard,mothers day is the hardest.I have no words of wisdom,we each suffer our pain and deal with it in different ways,our babies will always stay babies,I wrote a poem for my first daughter,her birthday is the 15th September she would be 34 this year.
The angels saw you as you where born
And said this one is ours
We will take her to play
In Gods garden of beautiful flowers
They let me keep you for a while
To know your face and see you smile.
But very soon there came the day
The angels took you to play
In Gods garden of beautiful flowers.

A hug and a hand to hold is coming to nannad and all of us mums and nans who have a special little person missing in our lives xxxxlove nellie

Yes; everyone on here will be thinking of you. I'm sure that will help, albeit in only the slightest of ways, but still a help. I'm not a tactile person at all but when something happens to anyone I know that is beyond words I give them a hug, so I send a virtual hug to you.

Like all the others nana I am typing through my tears., How can life be so cruel? Even having lost a baby all those years ago which seemed 100% tragedy at the time, I cannot imagine the grief of losing either of the little DGC or the grief of their parents. Life is so fragile isn't it and yet because of modern medicine etc etc we take our blessings so much for granted. I cannot end you enough Bon courage for Sunday too xxx

You all make me feel humble, how you all cope with such sad things in your lives, I don't know. I don't think I could

Alie ~ (hug)

Alie vampirequeen

Vq I think those are both lovely ways to embrace the pain of loss.

I always light a candle on his anniversary then go out somewhere nice for the day. Works in two ways...firstly takes my mind off what the day is but also makes his life a celebration ....something linked with enjoyment not with sorrow.

An acquaintance has no religius beliefs so she takes a chinese lantern into the countryside and watches it fly away then she goes out for the day.

You have a lot on your plate nanadogsbody and Sunday will be difficult I know. We had a premature death in our family at the beginning of the year and Friday would have been his birthday. Such sad times for so many people. We all carry on with these big gaps in our lives. I hope Sunday passes quickly for you. [flower]

Thank you all for helping me through this day, for being there are caring. I can tell from your postings that you can understand some of the emptiness that today brought. I still have Tommy's birthday to cope with on Sunday, but I'll get through that too I expect. My heart goes out to those of you who have lost your babies too. xx

nanadog {{{hugs}}} I have broken my heart reading your post it made me count my blessings as today I took my DGD to her first day of school, I have no words that could make things even a little better, but I send you my love

Alie

Nanadogsbody, the day will soon be at an end, now. I was thinking about you.

nanadogsbody eventually the tears will all have been cried, but the loss lingers and memories pop up at the most unexpected times. Being 'strong' in public is probably helpful to you and to others, but I'm so glad you've shared your sorrow here where we can offer sympathy and (((hugs))).

I lost a little boy on his first day, in 1967. I never got a chance to know him.

nanadog - it will fade, but it never goes away. Sometime you may be just remembering the good times.

Nanadogsbody...please remember to give yourself time to grieve too. Sometimes you can spend so much time being strong and supportive that you forget your own needs. Remember we're always here to listen or even just give a hug if that's what you need.

Nanadogsbody reading your post brought tears to my eyes and a lump to my throat. I am so sorry this has happened to you and your family.

hummingbird too

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You made me weep,*nanadog*' and my heart goes out to you and yours. (hugs)

Being strong for your ds and dil must be hard too, ((hugs)) Nanadog

Ah I see...the older version of SIDS. How terrible for them and you. Then they will have to fight to stay out of the land of 'if onlys' because they have no reason to justify their loss.

I can't offer any words of comfort other than it does get easier to live with. You never forget your lost child but you come to live with the pain and start to remember happy times without crying.