Telling our sad stories

I think Tolstoy is probably the most boring author in the world. I have to admit there are some other much lauded Russian authors to whom I wouldn't give house (bookshelf) room either.

You know what, absent? I agree! For all my deep love of reading, I cannot get to grips with the Russian authors of any era. I had to read some Dostoevsky once and found it an absolute chore.

I have missed you all for 4/5 days and all I can add is "what the **is going on here?"
I hope toys are back in the play pen and that whoever took exception to ANYBODY baring their soul feels thoroughly ashamed. It takes a lot to be completely frank and open about very personal matters and negative reactions are truly hurtful.
So , let's get back to the caring, lively,supportive, even eclectic (dappy??) community that we have been................please, or I shan't want to play either.[teacher] emoticon

We are sailing in calm waters now, Gracesmum, and I am sure there will be no more unpleasant or hurtful posts.

Good!
♫I am sailing.....I am saiiliing.....♫

That song always makes me tearful, thinking of those men and women who died in the Falklands war.

grace thats exactly what I was thinking.

Fretters, ahoy! Nae worries! We're riding along on the crest of the wave, as usual. Every now and then the boat rocks a little, that's all. Soon sorted.

And, as GNHQ keeps saying, if you don't like a thread, walk away from it. There are plenty of others to choose from.

In a way, it's quite useful to have a post that's over the top every now and then, which has to be deleted, because it reminds us all what the boundaries of robust interchanges of views are. Nothing wrong with controversy per se. Everything wrong with bitchy name-calling and accusations.

This is the place for sad stories isn't it? Don't know how I'm going to get through the next week. Tommy would have been 5 on Sunday, which means he should have been starting school tomorrow. It's so not fair. I miss him so much even after 3+ years.

Nana

Nanad Anniversaries are very hard, aren't they. Nothing and no-one can ever replace the child you have lost, but perhaps over time the joy you had in his life can gradually replace the sadness.

I love the song I am sailing, think it very upbeat

Nanadogsbody Indeed this must be a very sad reminder of your loss. Of course you miss him. It must seem so cruel.

Nana I guess only time can help soften your loss, but milestones are difficult.

Nanadogsbody remember we are here for you when you need to unload.

I agree with gracesmum

Thank you all. I can't talk about it face to face, and I have to 'be strong' in front of my DS and DDiL. I nearly didn't post but it's so hard keeping all the hurt and pain inside. I have to put on a brave face now as I'm off to pick his little sister up from nursery. Nights are the worst times so may take you up on your offer to unload.

Nanadogsbody - I stay up very late and wake very early and I am another mum and gran suffering loss, so if you want to talk at any time, I am a good and sympathetic listener.xxxxx

Nanadogsbody, I can't begin to imagine your pain.

Nanadog You can let it out to us, you are among friends

So sorry hun. I know what grief for a child is like. I'm happy to talk to you if you'd like. Anniversaries are very difficult.

Nanadog, this is for you.

" You are now a dream.
I wanted to give you everything,
I wanted to teach you everything,
I wanted to show you everything,
I wanted you to feel, and enjoy
and share my happiness in you.

But you are now a dream,and you , that beautiful dream
will live with me forever."

I have just tucked up the little grandboys in bed and this poem has the tears welling up! It is such a cliche to be told to count one's blessings, but for every blessing, the realisation of life's fragility becomes more acute. All those "what if"s come flooding home and nanadog I can only send you what crumb of comfort my sympathy can afford. I know how anniversaries bring the pain to the surface, as do chance remarks, things we see around us - let's face it the pain is never far away

Nanadogsbody.....I know. Thinking of you xx

Just my feelings, gracesmum. I think back on so many 'what ifs' and, yes, I count my blessings.