Telling our sad stories

Nanadogsbody can only imagine your hurt So sorry x

Yes, anniversaries are painful. And so are the things that ought to have happened, like starting school tomorrow. Things that he will never experience.
Grandmothers grieve twice. They grieve for the little one that they will never hold anymore, and they grieve for their own child who has lost their most precious possession. I'll never forget how my son clung to me and sobbed great man sobs and said 'I just want him back'. Or my daughter-in-law collapsing in his bedroom clutching his clothes to her because she could still smell him on them.

And the worst part is not knowing WHY. Tommy was a perfectly healthy toddler. He died just before Christmas 2008, and never even got to open all the presents we had bought in such hope and anticipation. He was so precious and so loved. The last time I saw him alive he ran across to me and gave me a huge hug and kiss.

I have other grandchildren, but that can't make up for the one we lost. I miss him so much and always will. Time has not eased the pain we all suffer, we have just learned to cope with the emptiness inside....except at times like this.

I have never said this much to anyone before and though I can hardly see to write for all the tears I thank you all for allowing me to let some of my feelings out.

Oh, nanadogsbody...how very, very sad

nanadogsbody how deeply sad you must all still feel, to lose a cherished child. You have my heartfelt sympathies. I only know a little about loss of a child, but I have seen the lifelong sadness that others have experienced and cannot fathom how I would endure such loss. Getting to know a baby as they become a toddler is such a joyful time, and to lose your little one then is heartbreaking. I will be thinkng of you and send you warm wishes that this particular milestone can be passed with lovely memories of Tommy

nanadog (hugs) xx

nanadog - Thinking of you. Take care. xx [hug]

Nanadog - thank you for being so brave in sharing that with us

nanadog don't know what to say.(((hugs)))

Nanadog I'm so so sorry for your loss.

Losing a child is a terrible thing and not knowing makes it even worse. A sudden death leaves you asking why. You then move into 'if only' mode because if there is no medical reason then you feel it must have been something you did.

Yes, 'if only' is a place you don't want to go.

The cause of death is SUDC

www.sudc.org/MediaEducation/FactSheet/tabid/99/Default.aspx

Ah I see...the older version of SIDS. How terrible for them and you. Then they will have to fight to stay out of the land of 'if onlys' because they have no reason to justify their loss.

I can't offer any words of comfort other than it does get easier to live with. You never forget your lost child but you come to live with the pain and start to remember happy times without crying.

Being strong for your ds and dil must be hard too, ((hugs)) Nanadog

You made me weep,*nanadog*' and my heart goes out to you and yours. (hugs)

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Nanadogsbody reading your post brought tears to my eyes and a lump to my throat. I am so sorry this has happened to you and your family.

Nanadogsbody...please remember to give yourself time to grieve too. Sometimes you can spend so much time being strong and supportive that you forget your own needs. Remember we're always here to listen or even just give a hug if that's what you need.

I lost a little boy on his first day, in 1967. I never got a chance to know him.

nanadog - it will fade, but it never goes away. Sometime you may be just remembering the good times.

nanadogsbody eventually the tears will all have been cried, but the loss lingers and memories pop up at the most unexpected times. Being 'strong' in public is probably helpful to you and to others, but I'm so glad you've shared your sorrow here where we can offer sympathy and (((hugs))).

Nanadogsbody, the day will soon be at an end, now. I was thinking about you.

Alie

nanadog {{{hugs}}} I have broken my heart reading your post it made me count my blessings as today I took my DGD to her first day of school, I have no words that could make things even a little better, but I send you my love

Thank you all for helping me through this day, for being there are caring. I can tell from your postings that you can understand some of the emptiness that today brought. I still have Tommy's birthday to cope with on Sunday, but I'll get through that too I expect. My heart goes out to those of you who have lost your babies too. xx

You have a lot on your plate nanadogsbody and Sunday will be difficult I know. We had a premature death in our family at the beginning of the year and Friday would have been his birthday. Such sad times for so many people. We all carry on with these big gaps in our lives. I hope Sunday passes quickly for you. [flower]