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Telling our sad stories

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Greatnan Fri 31-Aug-12 06:21:13

Many of us have poured out our hearts because we have been cruelly treated by our children or their partners. We thought we were talking to sympathetic 'friends'. Sometimes we related how we had tried to help our families in various ways - financial, with childcare, emotionally, etc.
It is very upsetting to read that some people believe we have 'repeatedly' said what kind deeds we have done, when we were just trying to give a full picture of our family dynamics.
I am assured that the comment was just a generalisation and was not intended to refer to any specific member. Why make it at all if it was not intended to be hurtful?
Similarly, none of the accusations of bullying, arrogance, cliques, etc. were ever directed at any specific members - allegedly.
Perhaps it would be better if such generalised accusations were not made as some people do feel they are personal attacks.
Of course these comments are not directed at anyone in particular, they are just generalisations.

janeainsworth Mon 03-Sept-12 11:10:24

Nanad Anniversaries are very hard, aren't they. Nothing and no-one can ever replace the child you have lost, but perhaps over time the joy you had in his life can gradually replace the sadness.
sunshine

glitabo Mon 03-Sept-12 11:06:55

Nana
flowers

Nanadogsbody Mon 03-Sept-12 10:46:40

This is the place for sad stories isn't it? Don't know how I'm going to get through the next week. Tommy would have been 5 on Sunday, which means he should have been starting school tomorrow. It's so not fair. I miss him so much even after 3+ years.

Bags Mon 03-Sept-12 06:17:52

Fretters, ahoy! Nae worries! We're riding along on the crest of the wave, as usual. Every now and then the boat rocks a little, that's all. Soon sorted.

And, as GNHQ keeps saying, if you don't like a thread, walk away from it. There are plenty of others to choose from.

In a way, it's quite useful to have a post that's over the top every now and then, which has to be deleted, because it reminds us all what the boundaries of robust interchanges of views are. Nothing wrong with controversy per se. Everything wrong with bitchy name-calling and accusations.

glassortwo Sun 02-Sept-12 23:49:46

grace thats exactly what I was thinking.

Greatnan Sun 02-Sept-12 23:47:20

That song always makes me tearful, thinking of those men and women who died in the Falklands war.

grannyactivist Sun 02-Sept-12 23:42:08

Good! grin
♫I am sailing.....I am saiiliing.....♫

Greatnan Sun 02-Sept-12 23:22:37

We are sailing in calm waters now, Gracesmum, and I am sure there will be no more unpleasant or hurtful posts.

gracesmum Sun 02-Sept-12 21:53:36

I have missed you all for 4/5 days and all I can add is "what the **is going on here?"
I hope toys are back in the play pen and that whoever took exception to ANYBODY baring their soul feels thoroughly ashamed. It takes a lot to be completely frank and open about very personal matters and negative reactions are truly hurtful.
So , let's get back to the caring, lively,supportive, even eclectic (dappy??) community that we have been................please, or I shan't want to play either.[teacher] emoticon

Ariadne Sun 02-Sept-12 21:22:08

You know what, absent? I agree! For all my deep love of reading, I cannot get to grips with the Russian authors of any era. I had to read some Dostoevsky once and found it an absolute chore.

absentgrana Sun 02-Sept-12 20:18:28

I think Tolstoy is probably the most boring author in the world. I have to admit there are some other much lauded Russian authors to whom I wouldn't give house (bookshelf) room either.

Greatnan Sun 02-Sept-12 17:40:06

I am ubiquitous. I am watching Anna Karenina too - terrible upper class accents.

JO4 Sun 02-Sept-12 16:58:31

blush

I thought you were occupied elsewhere Greatnan. grin

Greatnan Sun 02-Sept-12 16:39:57

I wish!

JO4 Sun 02-Sept-12 16:31:05

So do I!!! confused

It's a good likeness picture.

jeni Sun 02-Sept-12 16:29:24

confused I like greatnan

JO4 Sun 02-Sept-12 16:24:01

wink and smile

JO4 Sun 02-Sept-12 16:23:38

That's not me! It's Greatnan! Read the flippin' thread! hmm

I don't go up mountains.

Nonu Sun 02-Sept-12 16:21:56

You look ravishing LOL flag

JO4 Sun 02-Sept-12 16:19:55

Why not then?

vampirequeen Sun 02-Sept-12 16:18:44

Why all the emoticons?

JO4 Sun 02-Sept-12 16:18:02

off up the mountains

JO4 Sun 02-Sept-12 16:12:47

Wassup Anagram? smile

JO4 Sun 02-Sept-12 16:11:47

and this

Anagram Sun 02-Sept-12 16:10:40

confused