Telling our sad stories

I always light a candle on his anniversary then go out somewhere nice for the day. Works in two ways...firstly takes my mind off what the day is but also makes his life a celebration ....something linked with enjoyment not with sorrow.

An acquaintance has no religius beliefs so she takes a chinese lantern into the countryside and watches it fly away then she goes out for the day.

Vq I think those are both lovely ways to embrace the pain of loss.

Alie vampirequeen

Alie ~ (hug)

You all make me feel humble, how you all cope with such sad things in your lives, I don't know. I don't think I could

Like all the others nana I am typing through my tears., How can life be so cruel? Even having lost a baby all those years ago which seemed 100% tragedy at the time, I cannot imagine the grief of losing either of the little DGC or the grief of their parents. Life is so fragile isn't it and yet because of modern medicine etc etc we take our blessings so much for granted. I cannot end you enough Bon courage for Sunday too xxx

Yes; everyone on here will be thinking of you. I'm sure that will help, albeit in only the slightest of ways, but still a help. I'm not a tactile person at all but when something happens to anyone I know that is beyond words I give them a hug, so I send a virtual hug to you.

I keep coming to this thread and backing off again,trying to find the words to say,I feel the pain experienced and indeed have experienced it myself,and still do at times,birthdays and anniversaries are hard,mothers day is the hardest.I have no words of wisdom,we each suffer our pain and deal with it in different ways,our babies will always stay babies,I wrote a poem for my first daughter,her birthday is the 15th September she would be 34 this year.
The angels saw you as you where born
And said this one is ours
We will take her to play
In Gods garden of beautiful flowers
They let me keep you for a while
To know your face and see you smile.
But very soon there came the day
The angels took you to play
In Gods garden of beautiful flowers.

A hug and a hand to hold is coming to nannad and all of us mums and nans who have a special little person missing in our lives xxxxlove nellie

Nellie.....it's so very, very hard, but we get there.

We certainly do marelli I have worked out now who you are...life does go on,and eventually the sun shines again dosent it...gone but not forgottenxxxxxx

Sorry, Littlenellie - I'd forgotten that you'd maybe not have realised that I'd been 'someone else' before - I'm no longer as 'green' as I was!

And no.....never, ever forgotten, bless them. xx

Battered and bruised emotionally. Monday night left me physically drained, having poured out how I felt on GN. It was hard. Our generation was hard programmed not to show emotions and like many of you I've had to learn to hug and be hugged. But talking about how I feel.....remember 'laugh and the world laughs with you; cry and you cry alone'? So pouring your heart out to others for the first time actually left me exhausted and with a momunental headache. But it was worth it. I feel like a burden has been lifted, the burden that was laid on me to 'be strong'. To me that's always meant I had to go it alone.

I have read all your posts, and I have felt the pain of those who have also lost little ones. And those who are estranged from children and grandchildren through no fault of their own. And the fear of those who realise life is so fragile. And the kindness of those who have offered sympathy and hugs. So many different people and so many different emotions. Thank you doesn't sound enough. but it is heartfelt. I cried, but not alone this time. Xxx

That's ok marelli I kept thinking it was someone else with the same initial as your previous name ,but it clicked with your recent post re your granddaughter...hope something can be sorted for your familyxxxxx

Thank you Nellie - no doubt it will all work out in the end....and if it hasn't worked out, it isn't the end!

Nanadogsbody

vampirequeen ditto

nanadogsbody those comments are lovely and you philosophise about tragic circumstances in a way that can only come from experience. A few of us have taken the risk and shared stories of distress and loss, and found ourselves wrapped in warm compassion from Gransnetters.

That's a lovely way of putting it when I've had that from all the lovely people above. Hugs to you all. (((xxx))))

Nanadogsbody We're here for each other. Everyone has a story to tell, some darker and sadder than others can begin to imagine. Thanks to this forum and the wonderful support it's members offer, we are free to express our locked-in emotions [should we wish] and feel a whole lot better for doing so. I'm sending you kind thoughts and a very warm virtual (hug)

Birthday almost over for another year. Went better than expected. Thank you, the hugs, flowers and messages all helped. Time to move on.

nanad xxxxx

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