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Greatnan Fri 31-Aug-12 06:21:13

Many of us have poured out our hearts because we have been cruelly treated by our children or their partners. We thought we were talking to sympathetic 'friends'. Sometimes we related how we had tried to help our families in various ways - financial, with childcare, emotionally, etc.
It is very upsetting to read that some people believe we have 'repeatedly' said what kind deeds we have done, when we were just trying to give a full picture of our family dynamics.
I am assured that the comment was just a generalisation and was not intended to refer to any specific member. Why make it at all if it was not intended to be hurtful?
Similarly, none of the accusations of bullying, arrogance, cliques, etc. were ever directed at any specific members - allegedly.
Perhaps it would be better if such generalised accusations were not made as some people do feel they are personal attacks.
Of course these comments are not directed at anyone in particular, they are just generalisations.

angiebaby Tue 01-Jan-13 13:11:01

girls girls girls,,,,,chill out its a new year,,,,,

Ana Tue 01-Jan-13 13:25:13

angiebaby, this thread is nearly four months old! Why have you resurrected it? confused

soop Tue 01-Jan-13 13:54:38

Let's not and say we did...[resurrect it]. So, best foot forward...onwards and upwards and all that jazz. smile

angiebaby Thu 17-Jan-13 20:16:40

oh dear dear....whats up now,,,i like to chat about my upset that doesnt mean that i want sympathy,,,its just its just nice to hear other peoples veiws,,,is this a help and cheer you up gransnet,,,it helps you a lot to read that other people have maybe the same problem as you, and you are not alone, if some people have never had depression over their problems or have neverfelt like suiside...they are very lucky,,,,,stay cool everyone,,,,,,when my problems change into little ones i will be able to chat about something good in my life.......my kids are driving me mad at the moment,,,,but maybe you have all given birth to perfect angels.....!!!!!!

angiebaby Thu 17-Jan-13 20:19:33

oh dear forgot all about it to be honest,,,,ok into the dog house again,,,,sorry sighn of getting old

Smoluski Thu 17-Jan-13 20:20:03

angie how about a nice spa day or spending some,obey to cheer yourself up....as you like to recommend to othersxxxxx

Smoluski Thu 17-Jan-13 20:20:35

That's meant to read money..

Marelli Thu 17-Jan-13 20:28:38

angiebaby - no-one's given birth to perfect angels. You're really upset about what's been happening with the house you've bought for your daughter, and things have escalated. It's not irretrievable though. You can talk it out with her, and if that doesn't work - well, it's not the end of the world.

jeni Thu 17-Jan-13 21:13:46

On a lighter note, IMHO, my dd gave birth to a perfect angel!smile

jeni Thu 17-Jan-13 21:14:59

Mind you, she herself was the oppositewink

glassortwo Thu 17-Jan-13 21:16:56

jeni your DGD does look like a little angel smile

jeni Thu 17-Jan-13 21:31:09

[smug]smile

annodomini Thu 17-Jan-13 22:32:53

No angels in my family - have had a few headaches, but now they have grown up to be respectable middle-aged dads! Take a long view - Angie. All may be well in the future, but put your foot down right now!

harrigran Thu 17-Jan-13 22:46:59

I must say that my DC have never given me any trouble smile

angiebaby Fri 25-Jan-13 18:38:40

sorry i dont look at dates,,,whoops again,,,,,,,

angiebaby Fri 25-Jan-13 18:40:11

why is it im always in the dog house im trying to think of something new to say,,,thats interesting to everyone,,,,,

angiebaby Fri 25-Jan-13 18:40:51

thanks anno,,,,,

Marelli Fri 25-Jan-13 18:48:30

angiebaby, you don't have to think of things to interest people. Just be yourself. smile

angiebaby Wed 30-Jan-13 21:16:10

thanks marrelli,,,,,,,,,i hope to have a nice break when all this trauma is over and i know if she is moving in and staying or as she said if she dont like it she will move out and move on how i long for a bit of peace,

angiebaby Wed 30-Jan-13 21:19:04

GREATNAN..........i like your posting,,,,,,,,im a lady who pours her heart out,,,cant help it,,,,,,never could keep my problems to myself,,,,they say a problem shared is a problem halved,,,,,

angiebaby Wed 30-Jan-13 21:20:55

thats nice,,,,,,

angiebaby Wed 30-Jan-13 21:24:26

hi marrelli....i have just noticed i have been commenting on threads that have been on for a long time,,,i have just noticed dates on these comments,,,,whoops,,,,how long do they stay on here for ?

angiebaby Sat 16-Feb-13 22:52:46

well grans,,,,,its been 6 weeks today,,,,,,,my daughter knocked on the door while i was out h was in,,,,,,she asked ,,,is the house ready ! i want the key,,,,h gave her the key said light heartedly,,,when are you going to move in,,,she said i dont know,,,,,and went, no thanks no nothing,,,,my h was mortified,,,,,so was i when i got home and he told me, she kept the kids in the car, ! so thats it now but she is in for a shock,,,the bank is shut for ever, my heart is brocken i wont get an apology,,,no not her she wont do that,,,,,so at the moment i am very unhappy,,,,,,,,,its so nice that we can come on here and tell our storys,,,,,,,i thnk you all,,,i know i am not alone after all,,,,,,,,,,,,for anyone who is new,,,i bought my d a house and she has treated me like dirt,,,,,,,,i rest my case,,,,,

Faye Sat 16-Feb-13 23:31:31

angiebaby for goodness sake write to her and tell her not to give notice because the house you had renovated for her is now not available. If you keep spoiling your daughter you will only have your self to blame.

It is up to you which path you take, the path to being treated like a door mat or the path to being appreciated.

I think you secretly are getting something out of poor me, look how I am treated by my children when I have done everything I could possibly do for them.

nightowl Sat 16-Feb-13 23:45:04

I think I agree with Faye and suggest you change the locks and tell her you have changed your mind. Enough is enough.