Telling our sad stories

Greatnan I completely understand the usefulness of people reiterating their experiences on different threads. I as a newcomer to this forum don't have the time or inclination to peruse all of the older posts so more recent references to the experiences of more longstanding members of GNet have given me invaluable advice on a number of issues.

Please continue to offer help and support to newcomers even at the risk of repeating yourself

I think if you want to be part of a group where all agree with one another, you have to find that in real life. GN is simply too big for that. Too many different personalities.

Sorry, didn't mean that Charlotte. People have sad tales to tell and need to talk them through. Agreed and understood.

I was talking about a bone of contention. When someone takes offence at what another GNetter has said and won't accept an explanation or apology. Then the issue is dragged up day after day, ad nauseum.

Wasn't apologising Charlotta, just posted some (I hope) relevant stuff on the thread where absent was apologising (not that she needed to either!)
Thank you for the comment about being sensible, though

I can't say I have noticed any of the things mentioned, but then I don't have time to log in every day unfortunately! If these things are happening then I think GNHQ should stamp on it as we have all read how these things can escalate and the hurt it can cause. I am all for a lively debate, but acknowledge there will be those who disagree with my views and I respect their opinions as I hope they would respect mine.

Milking it now?

The trouble is nana that the hurt and disappointment don't go away. I understand why when a new thread appears that some GNetters tell their stories over again, it is part of their lives.
I speak as someone lucky enough till now not to have serious relationship problems.
A lot of us have been contributing for over a year now but new people don't know us and we help them getting to know us by repeating a few facts.
Perhaps some threads could be shorter. I have suggested this before and been put down for it, but still think that we are posting on GN, not blogging.

mamie I've no idea what you are apologizing for. You always seemed very sensible to me.

But likewise people have to let go when the bone has been picked over and not keep going on, and on, and on.

Think I have said my bit on the apology thread!

Yes, I feel I have come to the end of my tether with such continual accusations now. Gransnetters are generally a happy bunch of kind, supportive people who come on here for some chat, lively discussion, to socialise, get a bit of information, and give and receive support to each other. Unfortunately, a pattern has developed where certain threads become lively and, yes, even heated, but then an agitator will break in on the discussion in order to stir things up unnecessarily. Some have admitted they like that level of conflict.

Time they got over themselves. Keep to forum etiquette or go and make trouble elsewhere. Enough, now.