Online porn

had to look up what a rampant rabbit was...clever...sort of use to calling a spade a spade over here. (a shovel).

Love it F.Ted! how funny and how inventive.

Isn't Shades of Grey noted as the nearest thing to porn you can read without it being called porn. I would leave it on the bedside table with a rampant rabbit beside it. That may open conversation!#

Seriously though, I think that as you came about it by accident it would be pertinent to say something, he is probably waiting on tenterhooks for you to mention it as he may have realised that you found it.

Ladyblue most men and a lot of women watch and enjoy on line pornography, on their own/with their partner, so stop worrying about it!

For years I have bought and looked at soft porn Magazines. I did my best to hide them but inevitably my wife discovered one of them. She did not make a big issue of it because we had a healthy sex life. In fact, we made a sex game of it as a preamble to a love making session. I'd be on the bed reading a 'magazine' and doing what men do when they read these things. My wife would creep up the stairs and watch me through a mirror. She would come in and pretend to catch me at it and...well it would just develop from there.

oops.... I meant "two"

Perhaps he has been looking at porn all his life.. you just found out... and I certainly do not think it is anything to worry about. Obviously the best solution would be to watch it with him, although I doubt this is an alternative that you would consider. Anyway.. just stop worrying it is normal to watch porn and I reckon most men do it. I have to sons who are both in relationships, but I have gone past being shocked by what is in the history on the "house" laptop.

[giggle]

messenger must spend quite a lot of time going through the threads (recipes, knitting, gardening, work and volunteering etc) in the hope of finding something to suit his interests, that probably accounts for the long periods of absence.

And actually, messenger you haven't.

Now I remember the name!!!!

you're rumbled!

Good grief.

And yet, somehow I'm not surprised.

Messenger there seems to be a pattern to your posting.

Really!Jeni

And I think I've seen it all!

Maybe some `g`netters would like to meet a gerontaphyl..I think I have spelt the G word right!!Ladies of course, not the blokes...

I agree glassortwo..like you say it is a bit samey but as we all know there `ain`t` nothing new under the sun is there?...

I cant say I haven't had a look..... but after the first 5 mins its a bit the samey samey.

I have NEVER found the desire to look at porn. I suppose it's because I know too much. So nothing would surprise me! Very boring!

He didn't clear his history and then asked me to bid on 2 things that he was watching on Ebay that involved me switching between 2 pages - he wasn't at home to do it himself silly boy!!! I never normally go on his laptop and would certainly think to look at his history.................never had any reason to and don't think I will have any reason to in the future! Liked JammieB's comment about leaving 50 Shades on the bedside table as I do confess to have read all of them - heavens knows why - I think that I will change my name to Hippocrite - accent on the "Hippo" bit !
Thank you ladies. I have enjoyed your comments x

ladyblue you have clarified that you don't want to be having sex with him. I think most men (and I suppose quite a lot of women) look at porn at some stage in their life, probably several stages. It is normal rather than abnormal behaviour. And I guess it is also normal for women to feel at least a bit uneasy if their man is looking at porn.
So if you don't want to talk to him about it, the alternative is to somehow "reframe" it in your mind perhaps. (e.g. its harmless, at least he is not chasing younger women etc) It's about the inner words that you are saying to yourself maybe? Or can you perhaps talk to him about the fact that you need a few compliments from him to boost your ego now and again?

specki the nookie department made me laugh, I had to read it twice, bit early in the morning (apologies I know it wasn't meant to be funny). You make a good point.

lblue pragmatism trumps principle in this instance. He is a lucky man. One last thing though, I'm nosy now - how did you discover he was viewing porn? Did he forget to clear the history on the PC? Was he so immersed that you walked by and he didn't even notice? As I said, I am being just plain nosy, imagining an afternoon TV show entitled Lady Blue: Porn Detective.

I do not think that it is seen specifically as the women is to blame. I think it is just when one person rejects another the rejected person tends to wonder what they did. Many men whose wives no longer want to make love physically feel it is their fault, even if they will not admit it. Rejection is always hard to bear, especially if the the rejector seems to have found a substitute.