Sex and relationships webchat with Barbara Bloomfield Wednesday 27 March 1-2pm

Geraldine this is a topic close to my heart, but did we not have another webchat on this subject not that long ago?

(Senile/numpty disclaimer applies)

Since I never meet any eligible bachelors or widowers and if I do they seem to be scared of me, I can't see how anyone can help.
Anyway I don't think I want one of those men things in my life again. They are soooooooooo untidy!

IMHO A bit near the knuckle and even a bit in appropriate for women of our age I would say, we just cant be bothered with any of that out our time of life.

Hope you dont mind me sharing my opinion.

Thank you

The different rules question strikes a chord with me. I've just begun a relationship with someone I met through volunteering at our local charity shop. We do get on well, but it's been a very long time since I've 'dated' and I don't think either of us is entirely sure of the etiquette, so to speak. Or is there no etiquette at all when you're both over 70?

Clytie, very impressed you met someone so easily. Who made the first move? Or is that part of your etiquette query? I'm really struggling to meet someone to be completely honest...and I'd love to. My family keep me busy but I do miss having a special someone in my life.

Where do the eligible men hang out these days? I'm not sure I'm up to an online dating site - if such a thing exists for people my age! And how do you show you're interested without coming across as desperate?

jadey no objection at all to you sharing your opinion, but speak for yourself rather than including the rest of us in your generalisations
clytie not sure I ever grasped the etiquette of dating - it was 'nice girls don't, modern girls do' in those days and I don't remember the etiquette books covering that in any great depth

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To be honest threesugars, I'm not sure who made the first move! We were thrown together at first, partly because we were both responsible for the books section and partly because we were by far the oldest there (which did surprise me a little.)
There's a coffee shop next door so it came to feel quite natural to pop in there after our shift, and then last week he asked me out to dinner .

So it's all very lovely but neither of us has done this since our 20s, and it feels so silly at my age to be wondering about things like 'When do I introduce him to the family?' or 'When is the right time to stay the night?'

Janeainsworth, the closest I can see to etiquette books nowadays is women's magazines and I don't trust anything they say!

All you can do is trust your own instincts. You are no longer bound by the "Nice girls don't" outlook, but you don't have to act like a randyfemale footballer either. He sounds a nice bloke who will not be galloping for the finishing line, so enjoy the walk round the course. Perhaps you will both break into a trot, even a canter. Perhaps one or other of you will refuse at the first jump.

Just remember that you will still be thrown together in the charity shop after the dinner and you don't want to be blushing in front of the customers.

Ohh another webchat...

What advice can you give on making yourself feel sexy? Or indeed, getting DH to think I'm sexy without dusting off the lacy stockings from my 20s!

clytie Agree with you about the women's magazines - as far as introducing him to family etc I wouldn't even think about it just yet unless you want to scare him off!
Spending the night - I'm sure you'll know if and when it feels like he right time. Don't do anything you're not comfortable with.
Bear in mind this advice comes from a woman who has been married to the same man since 1970 and who hasn't dated anyone for several decades so you might wish to take it all with a pinch of salt!!

Oh dear, Elegran, I hadn't thought about blushing in front of the customers! I think you and Jane are absolutely right - best to take things slowly. Thank you for your advice, isn't it funny how some things are so much easier to discuss with strangers?

clyte dont worry about it, take a step at a time and it will all works itself out,

Jadey what is our time of life? I think you'll find that there is a wide range of ages on here and anyway what's age got to do with it? It's an attitude of mind surely?

I won't invite jadey to one of my Ann Summers parties then ��

Surely Jadey is entitled to her opinion, Don"t suppose everyone wants to bonk every minute of the day . In fact if ever

Orgottenwhat it was like!

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Jadey is certainly entitled to her opinion, and entitled to express it, and we are entitled to disagree with her.
what she actually said was
'IMHO A bit near the knuckle and even a bit in appropriate for women of our age I would say, we just cant be bothered with any of that out our time of life.'

I just think she is mistaken to assume that the entire membership of Gransnet can't be bothered with sex

Huge generalisation Jadey as our previous threads and webchats along these lines show. We are all different!!

Relationships need 'nurture' and sometimes 'nurture' gets lost in the hum drum of daily routine! I sometimes have to kick start things by remembering to organise going out on our own. We are busy with our own interests and socialise a lot with our mutual friends but sometimes going out just as a couple is what is needed!

Agree Nanaej.
Last night we went out just the two of us to our local Marriott Hotel to a dinner dance - good food and dancing to Swing music.
Much as I enjoy going out with our friends, last night was quite romantic