It comes to us every few months, Christmas, Easter, the Grandchildrens' Birthdays. We take gifts and - this weekend - Easter Eggs to our estranged DGC who we haven't seen for 5 years, it is heartbreaking. The ex DiL is so vicious and spiteful when answering the door ( We have actually never had a cross word, not from us anyway) we just drop the gifts at the door and leave quickly.
In May it is the little boys birthday and I will send a gift voucher as I cannot face knocking on her door again. It is the only real time I get upset, the rest of the year I put them to the back of my mind, it is too painful remembering the lovely times we used to have with them, taking them to the woods, climbing trees, enjoying the things that we enjoy. We will never be able to do these things with these two again. We get such pleasure out of our other grandchildren but it doesn't take the pain of losing these two.
My son doesn't say much, in fact he says nothing at all, he writes to them every fortnight and has for the past 4 years, it was weekly but what can you say in letter when there is no feed back and no reply or acknowledgement at all? He has two lovely little boys from his second marriage and adores them but the eldest is now exactly the same age as his older boy was when she stopped contact.
Now that is off my chest I will feel a little better. Its sad when my mother says that she won't buy the two we don't see and egg because she never sees them. It is not their fault at all.
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