ps I've just realised that this is an old thread and I said the same thing more or less 2 years ago.

"falling in love" - that's another phrase you don't hear now. Songs like One Enchanted Evening.
I think husband and I are quite romantic - when we're not arguing!

I believe that with growing age,love only takes different shapes but it does not vanish. Converting from one form to other is not vanishing.

No squeezing your wife's bum is not romantic cheeky (oops pun) but not romantic.whats romantic to me is just be able to sit and talk about anything and laugh at some of the stupidity that is going in the world. It may not seem romantic but to me the fact that we are talking and laughing about things is wonderful.

The only couple in my family spend their time fighting, belittling each other and resenting who does housework. I've never had a loving man, my late husband was quit loving for a while but it stopped with the sheer drudgery of being parents. I would love to know how people stay in love it must be more than pretty words and gifts

I'm with Day6 I have never had such a considerate man in my life. He isn't perfect, but neither am I. We make each other happy ... I feel blessed and very lucky that we are so compatible. He's a good 'un.

I had someone like that in my life but not for long enough However I still have the memories and that feeling of being cherished by him and being important to him and being part of each other's life has stayed with me. I can't imagine not having known him. That feels romantic to me

The memory that stays in my mind above all others and from the one who I loved and through his ill health so tragically lost was when we were coming home, from a night out,he stopped the car leant across to me looked into my eyes and said 'marry me'.Just that.I often have a cry when I think about that moment.To me those two words beats getting down on one knee and all the flowers and romantic dinners associated with a proposal.

We recently celebrated 45 years of marriage and in November will be 50 years since we met. We have had ups and downs over the years..some serious downs but these made us see that we are better together than apart. This being the case, and knowing we almost lost it, keeps us on our toes and we do do things spontaneously, make sure we make time for each other...as well as pursuing our own interests too so we don't get too boring! We squabble and get grumpy too..

I've been with DH since 1975 and no longer expect any romantic gestures, which is just as well as I'd be sadly disappointed. He has a kind heart, is well meaning (even though he sometimes gets it wrong) and is as generous as our finances allow. It was my 60th birthday earlier this year and he said " what would you like? Do you fancy taking a holiday somewhere different? Would you like me to upgrade your car? Or would you like a facelift?!!!!!!!! WHAT! Here was me thinking my face was still OK...obviously not.

I agree wth the comments about romantic gestures being just about the giver and not the receiver. Makes THEM feel good about themselves . Much better are the helpful And thoughtful things to make ones life easier and happier - sharing chores and giving an unexpected little bunch of blowers from time to time or a cooked meal.
I agree that Yorkshiremen and other men seem to find it difficult to show love and affection in romantic ways and buying flowers is considered a waste of money !! so you have to take the practical things they do instead.

My Husband was a gardener before he had to retire through ill health. He often brought home vegetables. When I asked him why he never brought me flowers the reply was " You can't eat those" pffft.

My ex husband wasn't a man to show his emotions. The only time he opened up was after a few beers.

I am very lucky that in my early 50s I met the man who is now my fiance and he is very thoughtful, kind and plans surprises I'll enjoy. He is romantic and prepares me lovely meals on candle lit tables for special occasions. I think it's a two-way street though, so I make gestures too, like buying theatre tickets and booking a nice meal beforehand.

In truth, we do things like that because it's a treat for both of us, and we believe after fairly hard lives and lots of hardship and heartache along the way, it's our time to truly enjoy being together. Having said that, we are just as happy watching TV together, or going for a stroll through the woods with the thought of a cuppa and bacon sandwich at the end of the trail. He still holds my hand and we laugh a lot, sharing a similar sense of humour.

I have never had such a considerate man in my life. He isn't perfect, but neither am I. We make each other happy. I think that's about as close to romance as I'll get and I feel blessed and very lucky that we are so compatible. He's a good 'un.

My husband was working in US on my 40th birthday & telephoned our bank which was next door to a florist. He asked them to take money from his account & order a big bouquet to be delivered to me. It was such a lovely surprise. That was 30 years ago, can't imagine a bank doing that today, even supposing there was an open branch! He is still as romantic & thoughtful today

nowadays its about a quick shag. Romance is just stuff that got left in the 20th century

M0nica is so right, when my husband takes time in the morning to make my lunch for me to take to work when I don't make it the night before - that makes me smile all day. Romance is the small everyday gestures that make you feel loved rather than the grand gesture once a year.

To he OP - About Time or Crazy Stupid Love for a modern romantic film

Maybe because women with flat tums are more romantic

How the fuck did I get on this thread???!!!

My stomach protrudes but it's firm. I call it stretched muscle from having a late baby. Son tells me it's probably down to visceral fat. He's wrong. Of course.

I grew up on those romantic songs and films, "Some enchanted evening " etc. And have had more than one experience of that instant attraction.
It was great while it lasted, but then the practicalities come in. If you're lucky it will develop into a relationship of mutual caring and respect. Or just fizzle out.
There are many different kinds of love.

I do not think so <I just read a nice piece outside on restaurant

They told me that to make her fall in love. I had to make her laugh.

But every time she laugh's the one that fall's in love is me.

Way back in the '80 the phrase "A good night 'Shag' as replaced the goodnight Kiss", that's all I need to know about romance.

I must add that my comments 're my DD and partner were my reaction to an argument they had,yes he does expect her to wait on him but she told she loves him as he is. I definitely prefer to be single. No silly sloppy songs, no flowers,I can buy my own, I have no one to answer to and no one to be responsible for. Yeeeees

G&T you are certainly a romantic

I don't know if any GNetters like to listen to Paulo Nutini (I do)
There is a line in one of his songs 'Candy' that sums up Romance for me.
"Oh darlin' I will even wash your clothes
I will kiss your eyes".

Well it does it for me.

I a;ways give Mrs. P's bum a squeeze when I go past, does that count?

No, that sort of behaviour is just self centred and selfish. Unselfish help around the home does not make a man a henpecked nanny. It shows a man who sees you as an equal and is prepared to share life with you, chores and all,