Hi
I really need some advice as this situation is causing me a lot of jealousy, insecurity and misery and I don't know how to deal with it.
DH and I have 4 adult sons (2 each) One of my stepsons - Lets call him G - moved back to our home town with his 2 children following the breakdown of his marriage.
DH has always had a very close relationship with this boy but I hate him. Over the years he has caused more worry than the other 3 put together (and then some).
But that's by the by. He split up with his wife a year ago as she had an affair, We all felt heartily sorry for him and provided a shoulder to cry on (as you do) through his tantrums and vitriol about her. However, 3 months ago we found out that he has a 2 year old daughter that none of us knew about - and yes that means he too was having an affair whilst married.
We also know he has not provided for this child either emotionally or financially, which really hurts me as my son's father never supported them and this has bought back bad memories for me.
He lies to everyone, usually to make himself look or sound 'big' (we all he know he lies and joke about it but no-one will challenge him)
All of these things and more have caused me so much heartache that i told my DH i did not want a relationship with him anymore and stated my reasons why. DH agreed with everything i said and said whilst he understood how i felt and agreed with my reasoning, he is the boy's father and could not take that stance.
However, G rings DH every day and they chat on like best pals and I feel really jealous. I feel like DH doesn't support me and it makes me miserable, i have even thought about getting divorced so i will be out of the situation, but not sure if that's my twisted head playing with me.
I don't have any close friends to talk to and although i can talk to one of my sister's she has had quite a sheltered adulthood and i don't think she would understand.
So I'd really appreciate any words of advice or help even if you think i need a kick up the bum !
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