Alarm Bells Ringing?

Sounds ominous !

She sounds like trouble in more ways than one, I'm afraid.

Wouldn’t your alarm bells start ringing at the word ‘affair’ regardless of younger ex wives , money or children ?

Sounds like a recipe for disaster.

Bells are deafening, tell your friend to get her finances out of his reach. Must be buying
sex affection.

Is this your first post CamJ ?
Is this your business ?

Good point Bluebelle, perhaps more to the point how helpful is it?

My alarm bells are ringing for several reasons.....

I am sure your best friend's alarm bells are ringing also. I hope you are being supportive and encouraging her to protect her position.

alarm bells are a bit late , horses and bolted gates spring to mind

Surely the alarm bells should have been ringing before the affair was discovered, not after!!! ?

Is this your first post, CamJ, if so welcome

(where's kittylester?)

....when you want her...

Some bells are dinging alright, ting a ling a ling.

Oh dear and the worst feeling is that everyone probably knew about it but you. So now she needs to be practical and as sodapop says, get the finances separated. If she's planning to divorce him then there are immediate steps she must take to secure her future. She's probably in shock at the moment, but this is where friends can support her to stay focused on her needs. Legal advice is essential and you could offer to go along with her for support. The best thing you can do to help your friend is just be there to listen.

Hmmm. I am surprised the OP had to ask the question.

I'd say let him have his fun, boys will be boys, and his wife can turn a blind eye to it all. And smash those pesky alarm bells with a hammer. Not.

Sigh.

My alarm bells are saying is this ................

More than alarm bells are ringing here, this is a case of for whom the bell tolls.....
Your friend is going to need lots of support, practical and emotional, advice offered only when asked for and a listening heart.

No internet!!!!

Welcome op, if you are new!

And, what a good title for your thread!

They 'need to talk'.

It's good to talk annodomini

The very reason most women have their own bank accounts. No man would ever buy favours with my cash.

Previous posters are right, secure your finances. Camj you should support your friend in doing this asap. Then she can decide how she feels and how she wants to go on. Putting some money out of his reach might make the husband think again if he wants his marriage to continue and the friend might think too. It would be good so secure the money before having a scene about it, if she has not yet done so.

Frankly, in this case, the loss of the money is far worse than the loss of a selfish bounder. Secure the cash is my advice.