Moggie, my heart is aching for you! No doubt, D is grieving and has been bonding w/ her MIL over their shared grief. But hurting and you and leaving you out of things shouldn't be part of that, as others have said. Also, I agree that switching the titles around is very disturbing indeed.
Why has she chosen this time to be baptized? Is it related to her DH's death? Is she joining the church that he belonged to or that MIL belongs to? Is it part of a different sect than yours? I'm asking b/c I'm wondering if that's what is influencing her behavior.
Also, I hope you don't mind if I echo GG65's question - has something happened between you that she might be reacting to?
"...am so upset that i have made appointment with our pastor"...
Good idea! I'm sure the pastor can help you cope.
"...just feel like taking over dose and ending it all.she makes me feel so small and unwanted. "
Please don't do that. We are here for you, and so will your pastor be. In fact, please let him know you feel this way. You might also want to contact the Samaritans: www.samaritans.org/how-we-can-help/contact-samaritan/?gclid=EAIaIQobChMIlJbn0enx4gIVFEwNCh2w_QyOEAAYASAAEgJN_fD_BwE
Passports not in the drawer I always keep them in. Turning the place upside down.
Son’s girlfriend diagnosed with BPD