17 years of marriage. Probably 17 wasted years. Two weeks ago when I read about NPD on the Mayo Clinic website I ticked 15 out of the 20 traits my world collapsed. Lightbulb moment doesn't cover it, I feel like I have been hit by a train. What a fool I've been.
I saw a psychotherapist yesterday and, whilst she cannot diagnose him - especially without seeing him - she made no attempt to dissuade me that I was wrong. She too, like my GP, asked me why I was still with him.
I used to think the Aspergers and Hoarding was impossible to live with but I'd trade the narcissism for those in a heartbeat.
All the advice is "run, very far and very fast" but I'm not ready to do that just yet. I have a great deal to process and need to know whether he just exhibits some traits or whether he actually has NPD. If it is conscious and deliberate then I have been tortured for 17 years, if unconscious and he wants to change (unlikely) then perhaps there might be a little hope.
Please don't rush to judgment, I have a great deal of processing to do, my head is spinning. I see my GP again next Monday.
Has anyone else gone through this.
Envious of real friendship - trouble making friends
Security is now so intense - cracking down on fraud
We owe the next generation better - children in shipping containers