Older child sleeping with mum

I really don’t understand the post, what the relationship with the child is and how old she is, but if a girl of 17 needs to have a bedtime routine (as opposed to a very short term need for reassurance after seeing a scary film perhaps) in which they are told no-one is going to break in and kill them she must have issues which need to be addressed. And if the person is 17 surely she should understand it’s not ok to wake the family at 4am because it’s too hot for her to sleep. If this girl is 17 she doesn’t sound as though she’s ‘100% healthy no issues’ as OP stated. I wish OP would return to clarify some points.

Is Shanavine the dad or the mother or stepdad? I’m confused too.

I don’t understand the post.

NHS waitlists are woefully long atm for mental health services. First action is for parents to flag with their gp, but if your SO can afford to pay for a psychiatrist privately or on reduced rates based on your income I would encourage your SO to do this.
Anxiety completely eats up a persons self worth, and untreated in childhood can negatively impact their adulthood.
She may seem healthy and ‘otherwise fine’ but anxiety is often masked by coping mechanisms, creating an iceberg effect, everything looks fine on top but underneath trouble looms. ( we have had several family members suffering from anxiety)

I too wondered at the 17-year-old being tucked in and assured as a routine that no-one was going to break in and kill them. Perhaps if the break-in wasn't mentioned she wouldn't get anxious thinking about it? An odd post.

It sounds like the daughter needs to talk to her GP. If she's having to be reassured about not being hurt during the night, she needs help. There is not 'no issues' with a 17 year old who needs a pep talk before bed that no-one is going to break in and harm them. Please get her help and support. Her Mum should take her to the doctor as a starting point, medical tests and a referral to a psychologist.

A confusing message, shanavine will you please be more clear , then the GN team will be in a better position to respond .

If this is a way of keeping a severe anxiety at bay and manageable - is it so dreadful? We don't know how long this has been happening.

Has the 17 year old had some counselling for this fear? Is there a background that has triggered it?

I think it's easy to judge here.

I find your post difficult to understand, but from what I can make of it I would agree with March. It does seem to me as if the 17 year old girl is suffering from anxiety. Perhaps you could help her by listening to her concerns. If she is anxious she may need to talk with a doctor. Anxiety is very debilitating.

What a strange post
Welcome by the way

What’s a SO daughter ?
Do you tuck 17 year olds into bed ??? I used to be lying wondering what they were up to at that age Do you live with your daughter how come you know so much about their sleeping habits if you don’t
Do you mean 7 year old if so that sounds much more normal that’s she’s going through an anxious phase
But far far from normal for a teenager
By 17 mine were practically tucking me up on their way out ???

Significant Other?

Don’t understand the post .” SO daughter 17”
??

Sounds like she has anxiety if she has go through her intrusive thoughts and reason with them.