Are there certain groups of people you may choose to avoid?

Doesn’t make you odd at all, just normal!
I would add to those people,also those who monopolise a conversation, are a complete bore, and those who talk in great detail about people you have never met and are unlikely to meet.
Also, loud, shouty people.

With you both on all those except I think most of us are snobby/judgmental about certain things.

I'm not sure many people are very keen on snobs or people who keep bragging about their lives.

I wonder if snobs and show-offs are aware that their views and behaviour alienate a lot of people. Perhaps they just get together with like-minded people and so the behaviour is reinforced.

It is said that those who feel the need to look down on others and who enjoy bragging about themselves are secretly insecure and should elicit our sympathy (though, I agree, it's difficult!).

panache I thought you meant organised groups rather than individuals. If it can be that I would add after my negative experiences Rotary Club, U3A and the WI I avoid these groups. Yes I know lots of people here love all three of these but my experiences were far from good.

People who are rude to shop staff and wait staff. These are the absolute worst people.

People who refuse to tip and bluster about ‘the service’ to cover up their meanness.

People who refuse to split a bill evenly and insist on adding up everything each person ate and drank, sometimes with the aid of a phone calculator. (I have a policy that I will not meet friends who do this in a restaurant in any circumstances.)

At the last Branch Meeting I managed to attend, a very new member broke into a discussion telling us that we (and the entire Party) had it all wrong, as he had a degree in the subject under discussion and he knew all about it , blah, blah, blah. He had no idea about the level of knowledge, qualifications and experience of the rest of us. Thankfully the Convenor managed to shut him upo by saying that time was short and sweetly inviting him to write a paper on the topic for discussion at a future meeting.

While I am always interested to hear other's views and have learned lots of stuff this way, I really cannot thole people who indulge in this talking down, teaching Granny to suck eggs, type of behaviour. It is mainly, though not exclusively men who do this. I believe the modern term is 'Mansplaining'.

people who insist on telling you how poor their backgrounds were but who are totally against anyone getting benefits..because their families"managed without that" I know a couple who are exactly like this and it frazzles my brain .How can anyone who went through really tough times be happy for others to experience the same or worse for their children .

I also find boastful and snobbish people irritating.
When I was younger I couldn't resist haivng a giggle or giving a teasing comment to try to burst their bubble, because they're also quite amusing, caricatures.
But now I just avoid them, if possible.
Oh dear, now I sound horrible too!

paddyann I do so agree with what you say. Why on earth, if you are able to, wouldn't you want to help your children who are struggling? I hate that "We had a hard time and had to manage, so don't expect any help from us" attitude.

Hale and Hearty people, the type who when your out in freezing temperatures and snow stride past with a ' good morning , lovely day' . Who say of people with depression ' you need to go for a brisk walk, get some air in your lungs . Who do the laundry on a set day, trot down to butchers and green grocers on set days, arrange menues for the week, so damned organised

People who 'push in' at bus stops!

I avoid racists. And by this I mean people who tell me they have nothing personally against black, indian, gypsy, etc, but ....

Very slim people?

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"Who do the laundry on a set day, trot down to butchers and green grocers on set days, arrange menues for the week, so damned organised"

(Can't work out how to get this in italics)

I'm envious of those people, not annoyed!

Unfortunately the people I would wish to avoid is an impossibility as, too late, they rudely feel free to tactlessly give their opinion on my weight. I am 5ft 6, weigh 8st. But I am expected to listen to their tactless remarks that I am, too thin, skinny, stick insect, not a pick on you etc.

The other side of the coin? It appears to be totally unacceptable to term another as fat, overweight, they need to go on a reduction diet, obese. Definite no nos in polite conversation, taking the recipients feelings into account.

Just a bug bear of mine.

My husbands family are notorious at gatherings for sitting in a circle in the garden/living room and talking about things pre-me!!! These events are difficult for me to avoid but I have learnt to withdraw myself to the safety of my friends.

Sometimes it just helps to say it all just as it is.............give your grievance a good airing!!!
In other words "Letting it all hang out"..... it gives you that spot of inner satisfaction I think!!
I wonder what others would have to air about me!!!

I avoid people with whom I have nothing in common, which has nothing to do with background, education, job, race, colour or religion.

I once went on a management 'bonding' session at work and came away feeling I never wanted to socialise with my fellow managers ever again, one of the most isolating experiences of my life. A couple of days later I attended a training session for gas fitters and had a great time and thoroughly enjoyed their company.

Gummybears - I can remember going out for a meal with a group on the understanding we were all 'going Dutch'. I choose my meal according to my limited budget at the time. At the end of the meal someone suggested we split the bill equally. It would have cost me about a third more in order to subsidize others more costly meals and wine. I couldn't afford to do that and said no.
You need to consider the possibility that not everyone has the same cash to spare before making judgements.

......And I don’t tip so you better keep away from me too gummybear
I m a generous person but I see no reason to tip a waitress and not the cook or the taxi driver but not the bus driver so that’s my reasoning

I dislike mean people, you know the ones with short arms and long pockets!

I know a woman who left school early, but eventually studied part-time and got a degree, she is very knowledgeable about her subject and has had some good jobs in her field. But.....on every occasion possible she mentions her degree and her expertise. If any of her opinions are questioned or challenged she takes umbrage and mentions her qualifications or past jobs. I suspect it is insecurity that prompts her responses, but it can be very wearing and I just want to tell her that she's an amazing woman who doesn't need to be the only expert in the room.

grannyactivist I suffered the reverse of that. I became manager of a department at work where my deputy had worked her way up with O levels only. We got on well, and her clincher for anyone who queried any thing I said I made was 'Well, M0nica has an MSc, she should know.'

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