Yesterday I received a call from a Client to tell me that they had seen my daughter has had a baby ... but I did not even know my daughter was pregnant.
My family is trapped in a toxic relationship caused by my mother being a narcissist. I was emotionally and physically abused by her, and every relationship in the family has been prevented by her lies.
She has interfered with every relationship I have ever had ... friends and partners .. and more heartbreakingly with my relationship with my daughter. She has told people that I never wanted my daughter, she has told me in front of my Daughter for years that I am a rubbish mother etc etc.
After my daughters wedding my mother started in earnest with a scary campaign of lies and deceptions, resulting in me being alienated from my daughter. Heartbreaking and after nearly 4 years I have still not squared off being separated from my daughter.
And then came the blow yesterday ... to be told that I have a grandchild from a client. The hurt was enormous and I felt physical pain like I had been stabbed and couldn’t breath.
I have spent the day and the night in tears and I don’t know how to deal with this hurt. I am not brave enough to step into the arena ever again with my mother ... but miss my daughter and oh I just can’t tell you the pain of hearing I have a grandson.
Any help, support, guidance would be gratefully received.
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