Old age? Affair? Dementia? Confused by DH

Have you asked him where his new found enthusiasm for life stems from? Has lockdown given him time and space to think of all the positives in his life? Is he just happy to have survived so far? More importantly have you checked the contents of your drinks cabinet?

If he is holding normal conversations and has no other subtle changes I wouldn’t worry having said that you know him best, listen to your gut if it’s telling something isn’t right you could be on to something I’d be watching out for other signs. I hope it’s nothing but good mood.

Has he been out without telling you where?Any strange phone behaviour? If not probably just glad lockdown is easing.

Remember the film The Body Snatchers? ?
Seriously though, it’s probably all the working from home and lack of stress, time to think, and the two of you being more thrown together than normal.
We chat all the time along those lines?

I think, in your position, I'd just ask him why he was so upbeat and cheerful all of a sudden.

I wonder if he is on any sort of anti-depressant or stimulant? Prescription or otherwise?
I think somebody suggested checking the drinks cupboard, but it sounds rather as if he is “on something”

BTW
Can you help with something from your OP please?
I am racking my brains to work out what you meant to say by
... all very venison bemusing (5th paragraph)

I was about to say more or less what Lemon said but she beat me to it. Not The Body Snatchers bit but all the rest.
During lockdown I find myself looking more at everything and appreciating things I formerly took for granted. Mr P is the same and we're chatting more than ever about lots of unusual things.
Hope that's what it is and that you can enjoy his new found zest for life.

I'd go along with his jollyness and say nothing.

Perhaps it's lockdown syndrome.

Besudes all the doom and gloom, only seeing one or two people and not going far limits your horizons, so perhaps he's trying to keep cheerful by finding something good or interesting in the mundane.

I am really really trying to take an interest in snooker. It's very hard but someone has to do it besides DH who keeps telling me about every move.
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No stress from the others at the office or chats. Sees you in a different light. Sounds good.

I think some people have found life less stressful and are happier than usual.
Be glad he is upbeat and not a grumpy old whinger.

Happy pills?

I do think something sounds not right. It doesn't sound like an affair. Sounds like possible start of dementia, or bipolar or some kind of brain event eg. TIA,bleed? Maybe worth a check up though doesn't sound like he would go.

I agree with MawB, I had a friend who went on strong anti-depressants and they could not stop talking and seemed very happy.
I notice poster does say he is perfectly fit and does not wear glasses. Also says nothing has changed to explain his sudden happiness.
If there are no anti-depressants maybe they are adding something to the water, who knows.

No work stress? No commuting?

how#s his sense of smell.
that can be an early sign of dementia, its decline.
but i think you just have to accept it, and adjust yourself, if it is. there is no effective treatment. and would probably antagonise him if you suggested it, or tried to get him assessed.
if he is happy, that is a positive. and you have some warning, if it is. you have to adjust your expectations.

Sounds like you should cherish the moments. Put aside the reason why and enjoy his company. I would definitely appreciate that kind of chat from my DH. We have been married 49 years and he has nothing much to say to me about things going off around him. In fact he is very boring and very much in his own bubble. We are in the throws of separating! I know sounds bizarre doesn’t it! But I am so fed up with not having a proper relationship Luke I see other couples having. He is a lovely man and everybody likes him although some can see what I see. He has never mistreated me or been unkind he just doesn’t cherish our togetherness and hasn’t ever done for the last 25 years. So I need to move on and spend time on my own and live a little. I am in a good financial position now so I can do what I want to. Thus has not just happened due to lockdown it’s been a problem that’s just been brought to my attention and it needs my Attention! We have done counselling three times by the way so I feel like it’s the end of a road. Any advice anyone?

Maggie68 why would you need to separate in order to 'do your own thing'? Do you love each other? My DH can be very boring but would be incredibly hurt if I told him, other than in a jokey sort of way.

My first thought is that he's on a high of some sort. Has any of his usual medication been increased.
I would ring his GP and tell him. He may not talk with you about your husband specifically but he may talk generally.

Not sure what you mean exactly Antonia about your DH would be hurt if you told him what! By doing my own thing I mean living the way I want to live that is eating what I like shopping for myself and going to bed when I like all without feeling guilty.

Oh and by the way! I don’t love him any more I don’t think I even like him he is very irritating and I am very intolerant too I admit, but why should I just carry on as if we are still together when in theory we haven’t been for years. This is not a dress rehearsal as one poster said and I only have a few quality years left in which to be happy.

My husband does all that but he's autistic si I've always assumed that was the reason

The important thing is that this change worries you.

Do ask him, what is making him so happy/causing these changes. If he doesn't realise he has changed then it might be the onset of a form of dementia.

If he does know what has caused this change, you will probably be relieved to know what it is.

Right now you probably are not seeing family or friends, so you can't really ask anyone else whether they have noticed the same as you have.

Next time he points out a cow, or anything else you know perfectly well what is, ask him why he is commenting on it in such detail. I'm not sure the answer will help, but it might.

go with your gut reaction. if something doesn't seem "right" then get it sorted one way or another.good luck