Lockdown Marriage/relationshi ps...be honest, be brave.

Wow you make it sound so,easy! Obviously no love lost between you and no financial encumbrances to stop you perusing separate lives.

Win win situation. Most people would have mountains to climb before considering such a move. Nothing to do with being BRAVE.

I agree Poppyred, very easy if you are finacially independant, many woman are not.

Financially!

Many people aren’t in a good (financial, health, children) position to even consider being able to move out and on.

If only life was so simple.

As others have said, you’re financially independent, also relatively young, no health issues mentioned and not been together that long.

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Wow ! Thankyou for all the “positive” comments (tongue in cheek !)
Financially independent....we have both agreed to not see each other in the “crap”. We are both massively down sizing....but what price happiness ?

A dating site ? Sorry ? I was merely pointing out.....don’t put up & shut up....just stop procrastinating and do it....

No health problems, no...not yet, but you can never be sure what is around the corner......

People are allowed to surf gransnet, you know!

How unpleasant some of you are.

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Spirit we aren’t rude really, but so many people post on here because they aren’t able to have an amicable split and having a really rough time, very rarely does someone come on and say ‘hey look at me it’s all fine and dandy, just be brave’ as I said, if it was that easy people wouldn't need the help and support of GNers.

The brave bit (I think) was you coming on here telling everyone to just go for it.

Good for you Spiritof67, if you are financially independent it’s so much better in every way if your relationship isn’t working out to separate, and ultimately to be happy.

I feel desperately sorry for people who are trapped in loveless relationships, and are unable to find a means of escape - you’re right, you do have to be brave to split, and also confident that you will be able to manage on your own (not just financially), which a lot of women have huge issues with.

I hope you and your wife find happiness in your new lives.

Doesn't sound much of a relationship that can be shed with so little emotion after such a short period of disruption.

The word is confidence as you pointed out Casdon.

You have to be fairly sure you are doing the best thing for yourself AND you can cope with the emotional roller coaster such a big change brings.

Frankly I've never heard of anyone having a split as easy as this!

Interesting post and I cannot begin to understand the aggressive comments about “surfing “. Please tell me it’s not because it’s a male ??
I think OP made perfect sense.

In response.....
Two grown ups, that have had the sense to sit down & see that they are actually not making each other happy anymore....mutually agree to separate. We “care” enough that neither of us want to see each other screwed over....why waste negative energy on maliciousness ? Simple divorce process with a clean financial break, simple house sale 50/50 split....no pointless arguing over “joint ownership” of the record collection. Anything that was jointly owned has been sold & the money split. We will both have a little house each (nothing grand) and less a standard (subjective ?) than we have been used to.....But the point is happiness....what price happiness ?
Are you all familiar with the poem “The Dash” ? Read it....and stop pontificating about ifs/buts.....
My “ex” wife (not finalised yet) are moving on with a gentlemen’s handshake.....we are being sensible & realistic....

Not rude - intrigued. I agree with all other posts.

Spiritof67... I salute you.....

M0nica

Doesn't sound much of a relationship that can be shed with so little emotion after such a short period of disruption.

That is the point....it wasn’t much of a relationship...it had turned into flat mates, living separate lives, but being pleasant to each other....a good friendship, not a great marriage.

Will you stay friends, do you think?

I thought this was going to be a thread about couples having difficulties because of the lock down but who still love each other.

MissAdventure

Will you stay friends, do you think?

Umm....I’m not sure, I don’t think we would purposely go out of our way to see each other, but if we crossed paths, we would be civil & pleasant.....
I cannot understand people’s negativity on here. My logic of posting was to point out....that it CAN be done. If you are not happy, do something about it....why should two people make each other’s life miserable for the sake of a piece of paper & a ring ? It’s not the 1950’s anymore......
Don’t clip your partners wings...let them fly !

It’s a lot easier to end an 8 year relationship with no children, people are doing it everyday of the week I’m sure.
Although, many people ( especially in the older age groups ) do decide to stay together for ‘companionship’ as it’s probably better than life alone. all things considered.
But if you literally cannot stand the sight of each other then yes, absolutely, just spilt.

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