I’m new here. Hoping by writing this down I’ll feel better... I have an 85 year old mum living 3 hours away alone since my dad died 3 years ago. I love her to bits but she is driving me into a depression. Everything is a problem or difficult. There is no bright side to anything. And she won’t pretend there is. She is fairly capable and uses an iPhone and iPad with few problems but she seems to create problems. Today she received a scam text and I haven’t been able to talk her through deleting it, even after an hour of FaceTime. In her mind this is a huge problem as she will need to make sure she doesn’t accidentally touch it if she scrolls back through her messages. I suggested she rang my son in law ( whose phone it used to be) but she immediately got in a paddy and said she couldn’t keep bothering everyone (I’m the ONLY person she bothers!) and she shouldn’t have the phone or the iPad.... it stressés her and she can’t cope! I do understand but honestly I can’t stop all scams and we FaceTime every day and that alone has been a boon. She also has Kindle on her phone and likes emailing Friends. So there are lots of advantages...Christmas day she was ‘with us’ all day nearly! I feel so unhappy that she is unhappy and a little resentful.... I often feel low but I try to hide it from her and be upbeat because I don’t want to lower her mood... but she doesn’t seem to consider doing that for me. I always try to put myself in her shoes, living alone just now must be awful. But this constant negativity and finding fault with everything is getting me down. ( I don’t need solutions... I won’t do anything to make her feel worse so I’m not going to tell her how she makes me feel.) Thanks for listening!
Good Morning Good Friday 29th March 2024
Things you find stressful that other people don't notice.
They don't really care do they