Baggs
Mind you, my kids and grandkids call me by my first name too. It's what I prefer. Why waste a nice name with generic euphemisms?
Well basically I suppose that reading in this forum of the many estrangements and issues between MiL and DiL that I wondered how people were addressed both in those situations and in the probably many cases where everybody gets on well together so there is no thread about that. Plus I suppose cases where there are problems but people choose not to post about it.
I just thought that if the DiL is treated as if DN that that might sort of treat her as a direct relative and that that might avoid some of the problems arise. I say 'might' because it is just a hunch, noticing that we read of DS and DiL but very rarely of DDiL and I have never noticed DSiL used.
I think a lot of problems in workplaces is because of managers having people address them by their given name rather than formally as Mr. Surname, then they appear as just one of the peer group and then turn suddenly nasty and vicious in an attempt to try to regain their managerial status if they do not get their own way about something because they have undermined their own status. If they had been Mr Surname all along then they are not mistakenly thought of as one of the peer group and so many of the problems often do not arise.