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Worried about letting people down

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Notjustaprettyface Wed 11-May-22 23:23:17

I occasionally do some invigilation work in a a school in the summer exam season
I pulled out of it this year as I knew my husband was having his hip replacement surgery just before and I would be the main carer
The school then asked me a few weeks ago if I would agree to do just 2 mornings to help train other people
I said yes at the time but as the time is approaching ( next week ) and the school hasn’t been in touch with me anyway , I feel like I don’t want to do it
I don’t like letting people down but things are harder with my husband post op care than I even imagined
What would your advice be ?
Should I put myself first at the risk of feeling guilty ?
Would appreciate any thought thank you

FarNorth Wed 11-May-22 23:35:52

Contact the school and say just what you said here re your husband's care.
The sooner you tell them, the sooner they can make another arrangement.

FarNorth Wed 11-May-22 23:36:51

And don't feel guilty!

Notjustaprettyface Wed 11-May-22 23:37:25

ThNk u far north

MissAdventure Wed 11-May-22 23:57:07

I'm a terrible coward at this kind of thing, and I end up putting it off until I've made things harder, in the past.
Just imagine the relief of not having it hanging over you, though.

I tell myself that people wouldn't think twice about my feelings if they needed to get rid of me.

You have to cultivate that same mindset.

Nice and polite, to the point, no waffling. Done!

Redhead56 Thu 12-May-22 00:29:13

Contact the school and tell them you apologise but your priority is your husbands post operative care. It’s stressful enough what you are doing don’t make life more difficult for yourself and do not feel guilty.

CoffeeFirst1 Thu 12-May-22 09:47:37

Please don’t feel guilty. Do what’s right for you and yours.

I do understand where you are coming from though.

BigBertha1 Thu 12-May-22 10:30:16

Family first! Don't feel guilty. smile

Elizabeth27 Thu 12-May-22 10:55:46

They will find someone else but let them know asap so that they can.

Notjustaprettyface Thu 12-May-22 11:16:55

Thanks for your kind messages , your support and encouragement
I will contact the school aasp

ruthiek Mon 16-May-22 10:30:28

I live constantly worried about letting people down, I have retired at 69 but have struggled with retirement now with DH concerned about living costs I feel I should go back to work but at the same time have lost my confidence .I feel I am letting everyone down myself included

FarNorth Mon 16-May-22 10:40:21

Good morning,*ruthiek*. You will be more likely to get replies if you start a new thread.

timetogo2016 Mon 16-May-22 10:54:31

Always family first.
The school wouldn`t give you a second thought if they didn`t want your service.