I met a woman on a training course about 4 years ago and we used to meet up every few months for coffee. I gradually found I didn't particularly enjoy it, she became increasingly rude and nosy. To cut a long story short I decided the best thing to do was to gradually lengthen the time between our meet ups and I lengthened the time it took to respond to texts too. I had found out from other people that she can be quite needy and volatile and a couple of my friends commented that they thought she had a crush on me - she became slightly stroppy when I told her (very kindly) I couldn't meet up due to other commitments and being busy. She was messaging me what I thought was excessively and it was becoming to feel like I was being badgered by her. In the end after she messaged me very early on a Sunday morning saying ' I feel the need to say hello to you' I kindly but firmly replied saying it had been very early to get a text on a Sunday morning and asked her not to do it again. I have eventually had to block her.
I feel I faded the friendship out in as kind and diplomatic way as I could - but I have been reading about ghosting and according to some I ghosted this woman and it isn't a nice thing to do. Surely we are allowed to end friendships if we want to but what are the best ways to do it when the other person does not want to end it? I think throughout the friendship she was intrusive and not one to respect boundaries and it was that that made me want to fade the friendship out in the first place.
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