Married my husband thirty years ago. Both nearly eighty now. Second marriage for both of us. I failed to notice warning signs. It was quickly clear he resented my teenage son, even put a special lock on our front door to prevent him gaining entry. For years I did my best to keep them both happy and love them both. I feel so guilty I allowed that to happen to my son. A few years ago my son had a breakdown and I took him in and cared for him for several months. My husband was so angry and resentful although my son stayed quietly out of the way at the far end of the house. They didn't speak to each other for years.
Have looked after my husband through years of health problems. Although mostly well he has lived a reclusive life for many years. See life beyond our gates as negative. We live by his schedules and my freedoms and confidence seem to have drained away. There is no joint social life or friends, no trips out ever apart from local village shops and unsurprisingly my son stays away. I stayed in lockdown until recently because that is what my husband wanted. Desperation drove me to begin to break out of it and seek new activities. This degree of isolation (and tedium) doesn't feel healthy and I am finding it hard to hold things together. We do not have any other family. I have tried many times to discuss matters with my husband but he gets cross, says I am mistaken and it is all in my head so I am not sure whether I am imagining things or just not tolerant. enough.
He is not a bad person and I recognise he must make his own choices how he wants to live, especially at our age.
Katerina1 Tue 27-Sep-22 22:02:13
Esspee Tue 27-Sep-22 22:14:44
SunshineSally Tue 27-Sep-22 22:32:19
SueDonim Tue 27-Sep-22 22:34:48
Doodledog Tue 27-Sep-22 22:38:16
VioletSky Tue 27-Sep-22 22:55:14
Blossoming Tue 27-Sep-22 23:01:04
Silvergirl Wed 28-Sep-22 10:37:11
Luckygirl3 Wed 28-Sep-22 11:00:09
MawtheMerrier Wed 28-Sep-22 11:12:36
Startingover61 Wed 28-Sep-22 11:31:05
Startingover61 Wed 28-Sep-22 11:31:56
Lathyrus Wed 28-Sep-22 11:57:16
Hithere Wed 28-Sep-22 13:01:21
Daisymae Wed 28-Sep-22 13:18:33
ixion Wed 28-Sep-22 13:36:04
MawtheMerrier Wed 28-Sep-22 16:51:35
Katerina1 Wed 28-Sep-22 17:04:53
Allsorts Wed 28-Sep-22 21:51:33
Bird40 Thu 29-Sep-22 14:13:29