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A new me - help please

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kittylester Mon 04-Mar-19 14:39:34

Every spring (ish) I get really fed up with me!!

I recently had my hair cut and had brighter highlights put in and I love it.

Now, I'd like to change from my standard uniform of layered tops and trousers or jeans. I did try wearing leggings and tunics a while ago but though I looked awful. I am, however prepared to try them again. I do not ever want to go back to dresses and tights!

Can I get advice please, on where to buy good quality leggings in a variety of colours, nice tunics and maybe trendy wollies.

I'm a size 20!!

Thank you!!

lovebeigecardigans1955 Mon 04-Mar-19 14:45:41

How about going halfway with jeggings, kitty? I get mine from Damart which fit nicely and come in different lengths. I'm in M&S bra and pants, Damart vest, jeggings and cardigan, Tesco socks and jumper. All in tasteful shades of beige and cream. A style icon or what?!

lemongrove Mon 04-Mar-19 14:50:34

How can that possibly be? You are a willowy size 12 in my head kitty smile
Only wear leggings that are thick and good quality otherwise they look bloomin’ awful, and not in warm weather (thrush! Not the birdgrin)
Nothing wrong with layered tops/tunics with jeans or trousers IMHO.
Maybe change the colours you wear? I find that I naturally gravitate towards blue, but a few weeks ago bought a Principles bright fuschia pink jumper, and it really suits me.

GrannyGravy13 Mon 04-Mar-19 15:00:41

kitty have you tried "jeggings"? Most shops have them, M & S, Next and Wallis.

They have a bit more control and tend not to bag around the knees.

Good luck with the new you 👍

Teetime Mon 04-Mar-19 16:18:13

I beg to differ OP you are lovely!!! If you do fancy some changes how about going shopping with a good friend- Me!!!!

PECS Mon 04-Mar-19 16:26:55

Don't rule out dresses!

PECS Mon 04-Mar-19 16:28:19

OOps! the drape pocket dresses are good..

Lily65 Mon 04-Mar-19 16:30:09

Marks and Spencer do some Jersey tapered leg trousers in navy and black. They would perhaps be a good start, then a top and a shortish jacket?

Tilletts have some weird and wonderful offerings and you can always enjoy the fb items!

kittylester Mon 04-Mar-19 16:49:42

Teetime, thats a kind offer but that would involve trying things on, in a SHOP! shock

Telly Mon 04-Mar-19 16:53:56

Years ago I was wandering around the shops finding it difficult to find something to wear. I noticed a lady on the escalator who had what I considered to be a 'good' look and I have had a variation of it ever since. So next time you are out and about see what looks appeal and aim for that. Masai have a good range of longer length tops, cut to flatter any shape. They are expensive but you will get your wear from them. I like straight leg trousers, much more flattering than wider cuts, in my opinion of course. Lands End have a variety of lengths and cut and I ususally but several pairs per year from them. (The lady on the escalator was wearing a white t shirt, pale blue denim shirt and navy trousers!). My current denim shirt is from the White Company and it has been on the go for at least years.

Telly Mon 04-Mar-19 16:54:47

three years, I really should read before I post.....

Teetime Mon 04-Mar-19 17:01:07

Yes... could be fun

J52 Mon 04-Mar-19 17:01:37

kitty from my memory at the meet up, you wear your clothes well.
White Stuff and Adini have lovely tunics and tunic style blouses. Your hair sounds a good look.

Jalima1108 Mon 04-Mar-19 17:09:14

I'd like to throw everything out of my wardrobe apart from a couple of pairs of trousers and a couple of tops
and start again
But I just don't know where to start shopping.

GabriellaG54 Wed 13-Mar-19 09:25:09

I buy lots of stuff at Primark along with H&M. That way I don't need to 'get my wear' out of them because of cost. Last week I bought culottes in the same tan/cream pattern as my palm leaf jump suit /£8, three stretch camis with adjustable straps in 2×red/white stripe 1× green/white, @ £1.80 each, a creamy yellow sweatshirt with white logo £5, a knee length white curved-hem short sleeved, cotton t-shirt £6 to wear over the khaki leggings £2.80.
I must have 8 pairs of their leggings in black, blue marl, navy and khaki and some are 4 years old, worn daily. Wash and dry overnight.
None have gone out of shape and no clothes have fallen apart. Oh yes...I also bought a pale-grey fluffy cushion £3 as a head rest when sitting up in bed.
When I'm done they are laundered and given to a women's refuge.

GabriellaG54 Wed 13-Mar-19 09:25:46

Primark do sizes from 6 to 22.

MiniMoon Wed 13-Mar-19 10:38:10

I wear jeggings with tunics or long length sweaters in the colder months. In summer, I wear jeggings or leggings with longish floaty blouses, and a cardigan if it's cool. I haven't worn a dress for years.😮
All winter, I've looked for a maxi skirt to wear with my boots, all to no avail. All I could find were jersey skirts, and I'm afraid they would show up my 14/16 size lumps and bumps.
I shop for tunics in White Stuff, and a shop in Gretna Gateway, the name of which escapes me at present. My jeggings come from Sainsbury's.

dragonfly46 Wed 13-Mar-19 10:38:49

Don't buy leggings/jeggings from M&S they are poor quality and wrinkle easily. I like Mint Velvet clothes - they sell them in JL.

glammanana Wed 13-Mar-19 10:51:40

kitty Do have a browse in Next I have bought 2 x pairs of their jeggings for this year they are a soft denim in black and mid blue they are not skinny jeans but the fit is perfect,I bought the regular length but they also come in cropped length.Their new collection of blouses and tops in longer lengths are very nice this year and well worth looking at,all the stuff I have bought at Next keeps well when washed and I have t-shirts from them which are years old still looking good.

Panache Wed 13-Mar-19 14:44:06

Kitty one of the better ways around discovering and trying on new styles is to watch a programme such as QVC for some time.
Apart from the enjoyment of watching you pick up many tips along the way,all very helpful I have found.
Keep an eye on the models, especially those more your age and build,see what they wear well, and pick up favourite looks,then on sending for them you have a full month to test and try,even wearing garments out and about etc............yet you will have a full refund on anything you return that does not meet your expectations.
They have some "looks" that are for the cheaper purse, whilst there are some very upmarket styles with some top notch stylists.
Once you have chosen what look you like you can then mix and match,pay more for those pieces you will wear a lot,topped with cheaper or more expensive garments...........your own special look.
Good luck.

KatyK Wed 13-Mar-19 17:43:36

I agree with Panache re QVC. Ruth Langsford has a range on QVC and the clothes are lovely.

Maggiemaybe Wed 13-Mar-19 18:08:07

I don't agree that M & S jeggings are poor quality. I've had some that I've worn regularly for 3 or 4 years that are still going strong and haven't lost their colour or shape. What I do object to is the constant changing of M & S sizes, lengths, etc, so I spend ages finding new ones.

Shirleyw Fri 15-Mar-19 06:28:30

M&S leggings, jeggings are perfectly fine quality but like you say maggiemaybe the lengths have changed I'm sure...I always used to buy standard length but now I buy long, I don't like halfmast length 😂😂
They have a new line of jeans now don't they? Was looking at them the other day, I prefer the highwaist these days in jeans....tucks in muffin top 😂

dragonfly46 Fri 15-Mar-19 08:25:48

Maggiemaybe and Shirley I must have wrinkly legs then grin

gillybob Fri 15-Mar-19 08:32:15

Have you tried White Stuff for tunic tops Kittylester ? I know they say they only go up to size 18 but most of their sizing is quite generous and many of the styles are quite loose fitting. There are always discount codes knocking around if anything takes your fancy.

PamelaJ1 Fri 15-Mar-19 08:47:58

Unlike Gabriella I have resolved only to buy good quality clothes that look it, and make me feel fabulous.
After watching an article on Victoria Derbyshire last month I want my clothes to last for as long as they make me feel good, which I hope is a long time. More than the average 7 wears that is apparently what research has discovered.
It takes as much water as we drink in 3 years to make a cheap cotton T-shirt. To be fair it may take that much to make a more expensive one but it would proably last longer.
I will always carry a picture of a woman who was breakfasting at the next table to us in that fabulous hotel in Bath. She had beautifully cut hair in a natural colour, blue jeans and a white linen shirt. She looked amazing. Quality screamed out.
That’s what I’m aiming for. It may take a while😜

gillybob Fri 15-Mar-19 09:43:11

As my late grandma used to say “I have about as much style as a Raggy mat” grin

Maggiemaybe Fri 15-Mar-19 10:23:36

That fabulous woman in Bath would have been me, Pamela. In a parallel universe, in my dreams. I’m more raggy mat as well. grin

PamelaJ1 Fri 15-Mar-19 11:11:12

Well Maggie you are my ideal, you looked amazing😂

Jalima1108 Fri 15-Mar-19 11:36:47

I showered and dressed this morning in old but decent clothes thinking we were going to the local supermarket then DH suggested going somewhere else and laughed when I said 'I must change, can't possibly go there in my Tesco clothes'!

I really should try to look stylish and fabulous all the time.

Gonegirl Fri 15-Mar-19 12:09:11

I cut my own hair this morning. Did the back and all. I quite like it. grin

Hazeld Fri 15-Mar-19 12:23:38

I have been following this post with great interest as I don't like to wear dresses, I love jeans and trousers so am quite interested in the idea of trying leggings/jeggings. I love Primark clothes as they are quite cheap and so I don't mind if I only wear them a few times before they are binned. Are Primark leggings/jeggings ok and if so, what's the difference between the two? And because I am quite large in the rear area, I prefer to wear longer length tops to cover it up. Any recommendations as to where I could get these relatively cheap also? A lot of questions sorry but any help would be appreciated.

annep1 Fri 15-Mar-19 15:00:54

Each to their own Pamelaj.
I like good quality but love a bargain. I like Matalan.
M&S jeggings etc are good imo. Bought them for years.
Tunics dresses Seasalt Adini Boden White Stuff

Shirleyw Sat 16-Mar-19 04:34:48


Nannytopsy Sat 16-Mar-19 05:13:57

I have discovered Lagenlook for quirky longer length tops that are not too expensive and Box2 for good quality but more expensive clothes. They both do bigger sizes.

kittylester Sat 16-Mar-19 08:01:24

topsy, I love the jewellery on Lagenlook. The clothes are a bit floaty for me but I've signed up for the newsletter.

We have a shop selli g White stuff gilly, so I will try some on next time I am there.

annep1 Sat 16-Mar-19 14:04:53

I'm only a small size but Box2 clothes look lovely and not too expensive. I wish they did smaller sizes.

PamelaJ1 Sat 16-Mar-19 14:14:28

annep1- quite right each to his own.
Unfortunately I seem to have become something of of a consumer with a conscience and try to get out of shops now without buying anything that I don’t really need and try to buy things that, hopefully, don’t damage the planet more than they have to.
M&S seem to have started to take the health of our world on board and have some clothing that is going some way to mitigating the damage. hopefully others will follow suit.

annep1 Sat 16-Mar-19 14:40:18

Nothing unfortunate about that Pamelaj . It's good. We all buy too much stuff we don't need not just clothes. But I'm always amazed at the very good condition of clothes in our local charity shops. Whatever happened to wearing clothes out?
I have to admit I don't think enough about the planet and I should.

PamelaJ1 Sat 16-Mar-19 15:24:53

annep1-I mean unfortunate because it’s not so easy. I do buy from charity shops. We have a couple of really good ones around here.
Kitty was asking our opinion about a new look.
My opinion that it is better to look fabulous all the time with a smaller but stylish wardrobe that looks the business.

I’d rather someone said “you look amazing”( doesn’t happen to me often enough but as I said earlier I’m a work in progress!) than “ Oh is that new?”

lilypollen Sat 16-Mar-19 16:33:59

Hazeld I have bought Primark leggings just to wear about the house and had to buy 16 rather my usual 14 elsewhere, they weren't a great fit. They are of a jersey fabric and pull on whereas jeggings are stretchy denim and have pockets and zip front. I've only bought M&S jeggings but recent ones aren't as good as a 2 year old pair I have.

dahlia Sat 16-Mar-19 16:56:07

Money is a bit tight, but we have the original Seasalt shop here in Cornwall, so I buy tops, dresses and jackets from them - they last for ages, and the T-shirts drape beautifully. Have been looking at jeggings, but perhaps not for my thighs! How I have the "mid rise" trousers, they really do exaggerate my "midriff bulge" - Lands End high rise jeans fit well and are excellent quality - they have special offers from time to time, too.

dahlia Sat 16-Mar-19 16:56:43

Sorry, should have been "hate" not "have" mid-rise!

annep1 Sat 16-Mar-19 20:59:24

Yes midrise is not good. And sometimes one good pair is better than 3 cheap pairs.
I just reread one post Pamelaj - 7 wears average! That is not good.
Gonegirl- You cut your own hair. Brilliant 😀. I spend £40 a month.!

Marelli Sat 16-Mar-19 21:55:02

I’ve found a brilliant online site called Kit and Kaboodal. Lots of roomy linen stuff which is great for layering and mainly one-size going up to a size 20 or more.

Marydoll Sat 16-Mar-19 22:39:13

Marelli, thanks for the heads up. My sister in law will love this site. smile
I have just sent her the link.

gillybob Sun 17-Mar-19 00:11:27

I’ve got a 20% off code for White Stuff if anyone wants it please just drop me a PM. Happy to share. x

NanKate Sun 17-Mar-19 07:14:36

Kitty you definitely don’t look a 20.

I would try tunics and leggings again as they are easy to wear and hide legs (well they hide mine). Seasalt have some really nice tunics. Do you have a Laura Ashley near you ? They have a good variety of clothes. M and Co, who appear to have a permanent sale on, have some bargains and colourful clothes if you are prepared to look through the racks.

I too hate trying on clothes, all the palaver of getting your kit off, but sometimes needs must.

kittylester Sun 17-Mar-19 07:52:00

Thank you all.

I have bought a Sea salt dress and some leggings but haven't ventured out yet. blush

But I will look at the other sites mentioned.

I used to wear loose clothing to cover it all up but my youngest daughter said I should wear more fitted stuff which I think suits me better.

It's interesting that some people favour loose and floaty stuff and some don't. I suspect those that do can cope well with scarves which I can't.

Jalima1108 Sun 17-Mar-19 19:44:37

I just dislike shopping these days but rarely buy anything unless I've seen it, touched it, first.
Hence my rather dated wardrobe.