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After many conversations about what not to wear, we thought it was time to put all our tips into one place. We've had a few <ahem> controversial pieces of advice on a guest post from The Women's Room, which made us question...what's the real secret to dressing when you're over 50?
One thing that became clear is that it's all about wearing the things you like and want to wear, regardless of age. Assuming that new trends are too young for you is sometimes just as limiting as choosing the same styles you wore a decade ago. Find a way to take the trends that catch your eye and wear them in a way that you like.
White Stuff are a great bet for casual skirts that still win in the style stakes.
It all depends on body type of course, but do certain styles age you before your time? According to gransnetters, the answer is a resounding 'yes'. Now don't get us wrong. A cosy fleece jacket is great to walk the dogs in. It's when that fleece jacket starts accompanying you on evenings out and lunch with friends that you might want to re-evaluate your wardrobe choices... As gransnetters say:
"Never ever wear fleeces."
When it comes to coats, go for neutral colours that go with everything, and classic styles - take note of the tailoring and fit. A slightly nipped in waist is a good idea, as is a longer length. Avoid a hooded duffle coat if you're looking for a multi-tasker. All those peg buttons and the boxy shape can look a bit 'school days'.
Try Next for a nice range of chunky cardigans and coatigans to choose from.
Elasticated waistlines have a bad rep, but they're comfy, so we see no reason to outlaw them. Happily, hiding the waistline of your trousers or skirt is easily done by wearing a longline top or, if you're after a bit of waist definition, tucking your top in and then pulling out just enough to cover the band (in a cool, slouchy sort of way). Easy as pie. Like this gransnetter says:
"I think elasticated or half-elasticated waistbands are a boon for those of us with less-than-svelte figures - but they must not be visible!"
A nice range of both plain and printed harem pants can usually be found at JD Williams.
A favourite in the 80s, but not always the most flattering choice - if you don't get the cut right, that is. Certain denim skirts can be clingy and as uncomfortable as their trouser counterparts, depending on how tight they are. But the denim skirt has been having its moment recently, in various, updated forms. And the results are really rather good. There are plenty of casual but cool A-line offerings out there that won't feel like a denim deathgrip.
"One of the most unattractive styles are long jean skirts...they don't hide a thing. They just make you look large ALL the way down."
Try Marks and Spencer for some comfy, cool denim.
Quite frankly, we're not sure blue eyeshadow and bright orange lipstick works at any age (or in any decade), so let's just agree to steer clear of that particular combo. Luckily, we've got step-by-step makeup tutorials for eyes, lips and face - and there's not a glitter eyeshadow in sight.
Recommended almost universally - as are their natural bedfellow, tunics. Confortable and versatile, they're great for everyday casual wear. Just be sure to wear a top or dress that covers your bum and always remember the golden rule: leggings aren't trousers. We have more on how to wear leggings here.
"I wear them all the time. With flat slip ons. With trainers. With walking boots. Anything flat. I'm so pleased they are back in fashion because they are so comfortable. Bliss. And the tunic skims any bulges in the middle."
Fifty Plus have a wide selection of plain, printed and control leggings to choose from, at very affordable prices.
Some declare they wouldn't wear them past a certain age, but the rest of us are still in thrall. Can you ever be too old for jeans? We, and gransnetters, think not. A pair of well-fitting jeans are like gold dust and once you've found them, you'll never let them go.
"Jeans are our fashion. We grew up with them."
It's useful to have two of three different styles of jeans in your arsenal, for varying occasions and levels of comfort. Girlfriend or boyfriend jeans are great for slouching around the house, or going shopping in, whereas for evenings out or smarter occasions you're better off opting for straight cut or skinny jeans. Check out our guide to finding jeans that really fit, and go in search of your holy grail pair.
Wrap dresses, skater dresses, empire line and shirt. These are the dresses we're after - providing they've got sleeves, that is. Quite simply, long sleeves provide great coverage when you're not so keen on displaying your arms to the world. Move over spaghetti straps...
"My dream dress (manufacturers please note) is an empire line, V-neck, 3/4 sleeves in fine jersey - plain or print."
There's always a lovely range of wrap, shift and every other kind of dress at Boden - and they come in longer lengths too!
Shoes, more than anything else, raise the question of comfort versus style. These days, we're not prepared to succumb to the heel dictators except for the most glamorous of parties. But what to wear for a run around the shops? Or a walk in the park?
A sin against fashion? It depends on the trainers. If we're talking 10-year-old 'used-to-be-white' relics, then yes. Go for proper running shoes if you'll be giving them a run for their money, or fashion trainers for an inexpensive, but comfy, runabout option. Keds or Asics (pictured) both have some fashionable, but comfortable, options.
"Trainers are essential wear for jogging, walking fast, running after grandsons and so many other things."
There's a deep divide surrounding the issue of Crocs. Some wouldn't go into the garden without them, especially as they're so easy to clean, while others are convinced that they're unremittingly awful. In our minds, not all Crocs are created equal (aesthetically speaking anyway) and luckily the range has expanded to include from rather funky-looking sandals in their trademark bright colours.
"Crocs are just as ugly as Uggs and make any feet look fat and frumpy. Moccasins or penny loafers are much better."
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