I have a friend of long standing. She is a genuinely nice person, kind and funny as well as being a gran.
Her widowed mother is old infirm and gets very confused. She lives alone.
The mother has carers to get her up in the morning and to bed at night.
Lunch s supplied by my friend or her brother.
Both are signatories on her mothers cheque book etc.
No power of attorney has ben drawn up.
Now, both my friend and her brother have been dipping into the old lady's money (she is well off), in some order.
Holidays abroad, house improvements costing ££££££, new cars for the children and so forth.
When challenged my friend cheerfully remarked that 'mother is fine with it. She's told me to help myself'.
Given that mother doesn't know what day of the week it is I think this is awful.
Is what my friend doing illegal, it's certainly immoral?
Is it me or am I getting mixed messages
New house and a sloping garden