Frida I am sure your experience is very common - not that that makes it any easier. Generally (I know not all) women are better at nurturing and men are not good at dealing with things they cant "fix". If you are unwell and your DH can't make it better, his way of dealing may be pretending it is not happening. I have had a similar experience recently and in the end had to explain that I needed support but all the while feeling I shouldn't have to spell it out! Sending you and hope you get good news soon.
To think that London, or anywhere else for that matter, does not belong to any one demographic