To expect my DDH to be the same as before his cardiac arrest?

It is wonderful that your husband has made such a remarkable recovery Flowerofthewest (love your user name by the way). Don't forget that his cardiac arrest was a terrible shock for you and in the same way that it takes time for him to fully recover from it, it will take you time too. As for not always taking notice of what you tell him, that is most definitely a man trait.

We all get frustrated from time to time. Seems to me you are being wonderfully supportive and he is as lucky to have you as you are to have your loving, sexy, kind and helpful husband. for both of you.

Flowerofthewest I'm sure your DDHs memory will improve as time goes by, DH has had 4 arrests and he is a bit vague for a while afterwards (I sound like it's a common occurrence don't I ) but yes I have noticed similar after the attacks, but then he is 78 so!

Glad your DH is making a good recovery take care

There was some research published recently to say that anaesthetics can lead to some memory loss particularly in older people.

Thanks FlicketyB for that info especially. He was under anaesthetic for almost a month. Could be that. Thank you also ladies. It all helps. xxx

with all that happened to your husband, it's amazing that he is still giving lectures, arranging courses etc. How wonderful that he is still with you and so compos mentis, it really doesn't seem anything to worry about just yet, but you could keep a diary as to how often things happen maybe, in case he needs to see a doctor in the future.My husband dithers all the time, and there is nothing wrong with him!

I suppose I can see myself in him when he dithers. that's probably it.

So sorry to hear about your husbands cardiac arrest and the illness that followed. He will have had many drugs administered to him during his long stay in hospital which in itself is very challenging to his system, both physically and mentally. It really is amazing how well he seems to have recovered so far, but he probably has a long way to go yet. He will feel very dependent on you at this time, having lost. all his independence whilst in hospital. It definitely takes a bit of adjustment to pick up his life again.
Be kind to yourself and stay strong.
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Thank you all for positive posts. He was absolutely filled with all sorts of drugs to keep him sedated for over 3 weeks. Plus he was chilled for 24 hours to prevent brain damage. I AM so lucky he did not suffer brain damage. On

He did suffer hallucinations though - ICU Psychosis - at one point I really though another man had come back to me as they said that they wouldn't be able to tell if there was any damage until he was talking.

I was in his room and two nurses had left. My DDH signed that he wanted to write (he had a trachy) I held the pad for him and he wrote 'nice pair of legs'
I was mortified - this wasn't the man I married, this wasn't my man. I was very tearful and put the note in the bin in case the nurse (who he was obviously talking about -in my mind - saw it) When I got home I rang my best friend, my sister, his sister in tears. A couple of weeks later when he had his speech back we were talking about the strange things he saw in ICU. I mentioned the note and he said that he saw it made me cry and he didn't know why. 'I was talking about the mannaquin that was lying on the floor' Phew!!! he still couldn't believe that I never saw it.