Modern manners

Couldn't you ask your friend whether they received it?

I agree, by the way, that it was bad manners not to have sent a thank-you note or even email if they have indeed received your gift.

It can take up to six weeks for gifts to arrive from a JL gift list gma.

It does seem to be modern manners gma. I've had several wedding gifts unacknowledged over the years and ditto presents for children. Not all though, one family I just send £5 for each child inside inside a Christmas or birthday card and I always have a thank you note. I appreciate this.

I've just a thank you card from a couple whose wedding we attended last September! Better late than never.

Perhaps they went on a long honeymoon and are only now sorting out the presents, and who sent them what?

I would leave it a couple more weeks, then enquire if all their JL gifts arrived, as you know it can take a few weeks. My brother's step-daughter and OH were really slow to acknowledge presents, but they had been busy making hand made thankyou cards, a few at a time, enclosing a CD of their wedding photos. All forgiven!

My son and daughter in law waited until they had received their wedding gifts (six weeks from JL) and their photo's and then sent everyone hand made 'thank you' cards with a photo.

I guess that's the difference - modern manners demonstrated with a personal touch. When I got married, we sent a printed thankyou notelet and added a few words.

Exactly the same situation but about 5 years ago and I'm still waiting! Didn't send anything when they had a child.

I had this situation having sent a gift from a large store and approached the parents implying that I was concerned that the gift hadn't been delivered. Some young couples send the thank-yous as presents are received which is a nice touch.

Tell you what I noticed recently when doing a lot of phone interviews with younger people. When you call their mobile (and bear in mind they know a recruiter is going to ring them at that particular time) they nearly all just say "Hello". Is this because most of the time people look at their phone and know who is calling? Doesn't get the conversation off to a great start for me though as I need to check that I have dialled correctly (and that I am not talking to someones partner, child or mother in law come to that) . Not asking much really is it, that they answer an expected business call with a "Hello Chris here"

We went to a wedding last July and still haven't received a thank you for a gift

My Godson was 21 last year and didn't receive a present as I didn't get a thank you for the cheque I sent him for his 18th.

His sister got presents for both as I received a lovely thank you card for the 18th and then for the 21st.

We used John Lewis to send a wedding gift voucher to our friend's daughter. No reponse from JL that they had done it and had to ask bride's mum if it had been received. We then received a 'thank you' note. Left us feeling a bit flat. Ho, hum!

Recently I received a thank you for a wedding present (quite a modest present) on a card printed with a photograph of the happy couple. A lovely touch.

On a slightly different note my girls (now in their thirties) always wrote proper thank you letters at Christmas and birthdays (and still do). Not a scribbled note on a card or tagged on the end of a parental letter but a proper letter with address, date etc and with a bit of family news as well.

Thank you gransnetters for all of your feedback. Probably letter will arrive in the morning now!!!!! Will post when an acknowledgement is received!!

The etiquette now seems to be that it's fine to send thank yous months afterwards. My daughter-in-law sent very nice cards thanking people for baby gifts, complete with photos of the baby, but about three months afterwards.
I think it's nice to receive an email or text right away, just to say that the gift arrived safely

I wrote some of my thank you letters on my wedding night, and more each day of the honeymoon!

I understand this frustration, I had the same issue and it became quite awkward as time went on to say anything.

In the end we said to the parents of the bride. It was dropped into a conversation about how they were and settling into married life. We made up a small lie about hearing that several things hadn't arrived and that we were having problems with the mail in general so wanted to know if they had received their wedding gift, as we'd hate to think it had gotten lost and they thought we hadn't bought anything.

It turns out it was a perfectly innocent mistake and we were emailed by the happy couple not long after who were very apologetic, regardless I was still a bit irked, but life's too short to hold onto it.

Best of luck!

Shysal you honestly spent your wedding night writing thank you letters?

Not the whole night Aka . I also sleep-walked later, tried to get into the wardrobe instead of the bathroom. Ex-DH must have wondered what he was taking on!

I don't think it's * modern manners* it's BAD or an absence of manners. Often comes down to upbringing but I have experienced plenty of examples of good manners from DDs' contemporaries. I like for instance Thank You cards for baby presents with a picture of the said baby. Who cares if it comes 2 months later? What new mum has the time to churn out "bread and butter" letters?

WE attended family wedding in Ireland gave the. Substantial cheque did not receive thank you for several months finally got card with photo on but quite Impersonal. We also gave some euros to brides sister who had new baby no thank you is sad. And I don't send again if no thanks. IMO if someone takes trouble to send gift a thank you is essential even if just a text.