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To wish that posters would read what others have said

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Elegran Wed 12-Feb-14 22:47:02

Why is it that so many people reply without paying any attention whatsoever to what they are replying to, or what others have posted previously on the thread? I don't mean when the thread wanders off topic, I mean when they are joining an on-going discussion.

I have even read posts which say "I have not read the rest of this conversation but my opinion is . . ." before jumping in with a statement which shows clearly that they have missed a lot of factual information and well-thought-out explanation and are talking a load of hot air from a position of complete ignorance.

merlotgran Wed 12-Feb-14 22:53:05

Yes, Elegran. It's very annoying when you try to keep a post brief and to the point only to find that somebody else's post is almost a carbon copy but three times as long. I also try to avoid posting at the bottom of a page because you can bet your life that people will only read from the top of the next one.

Ana Wed 12-Feb-14 22:53:37

I agree. I do wish people would read all of the thread before they wade in sometimes. Especially when they say what I've already said, but get the credit for making their salient point! grin

jinglbellsfrocks Wed 12-Feb-14 22:53:51

You got any particular thread in mind Elegran? grin

I think it's ok to answer the original post without reading the rest of the thread. Probably better really because you are not being influence d by the opinions of others.

Ana Wed 12-Feb-14 22:55:23

Crossed posts, merlot, but along the same lines!

Aka Wed 12-Feb-14 23:00:11

Exactly Elegran I had to post 'am I invisible?' only today as it was obvious my post hadn't been read was missed.

Aka Wed 12-Feb-14 23:01:38

Just read your posts Ana and merlot wink !

Yes, isn't it annoying.

Ana Wed 12-Feb-14 23:04:56

Sometimes it can seem as though one's posts are ignored, if there's a heated discussion/argument going on between other posters.

merlotgran Wed 12-Feb-14 23:05:53

I've noticed that posters often give credit to a previous post, mentioning the poster's name, when just one post above is your own post saying exactly the same thing.

You feel like screaming, I'VE JUST SAID THAT!!

Ana Wed 12-Feb-14 23:06:25

Oh, crossed posts with you this time, Aka! grin

Lona Wed 12-Feb-14 23:07:27

It makes me hopping mad!! We've had a thread about it before (quite a long time ago) but it didn't change anything.

Some people just like the 'sound' of their own voice smile

Ana Wed 12-Feb-14 23:08:11

And merlot. Yes, it is VERY frustrating!

mollie Wed 12-Feb-14 23:08:27

I'm probably guilty. Apologies. Will do better.

Maggiemaybe Wed 12-Feb-14 23:21:27

Me too. Sometimes there just isn't time to read every post. But isn't it just like real life - you come late to a conversation and put your two pennorth in, without knowing what everyone else has said before you turned up?

margaretm74 Wed 12-Feb-14 23:28:44

Saw this OP, thought I would come back to it after reading another thread - and there are already 14 posts on it. Must learn how to speed read. Must keep up.

margaretm74 Wed 12-Feb-14 23:34:02

Saw this OP, thought I would come back to it after reading another thread - and there are already 14 posts on it. Must learn how to speed read. Must keep up.
And it takes me so long to type on this tablet that someone else has just posted what I was trying to say. Only more succintly and without typos

Lona Wed 12-Feb-14 23:34:32

merlot Not everyone has the same number of posts on a page. There are options smile

Elegran Wed 12-Feb-14 23:35:17

Some threads remind me of committee meetings I have been at. A topic is raised and discussed, several valid points are made, they are discussed, and after chewing it around for a while a move is made to come to a decision on the subject.

At that point, someone says "I have had an idea!" and proceeds to suggest something that everyone else talked over thoroughly half an hour ago and rejected.

Paige Wed 12-Feb-14 23:36:18

meh...no big deal...what is it they say about opinions? hmm

margaretm74 Wed 12-Feb-14 23:38:49

See what I mean? Someone repeated what I just said. Same name as me as well, what a cheek.
(It was a mistake, not an attempt at humour. Still a novice at GN)

absent Wed 12-Feb-14 23:59:53

You know what they say Elegran – a camel is a horse designed by a committee. smile

LizG Thu 13-Feb-14 00:17:54

margaret grin .

I think it is a bit sad that we take ourselves so seriously. Sometimes I just don't have the time to read five pages and yet I would like to voice an opinion. Then I try to remember this when I start to feel irritated because someone is taking credit for my thoughts several pages back. (Angel with halo emoticon)

Paige Thu 13-Feb-14 00:23:09

Yeah I just wait around and eventually someone posts what I wanted to say. Ever wonder why I don't post much? grin

Anne58 Thu 13-Feb-14 00:33:26

blush

LizG Thu 13-Feb-14 00:34:50

Paige grin I have even been guilty of forgetting I have replied to a subject and worse, forgetting what I said. Then taking an almost opposite view the second time around.