About moving

My mother died last year and once her bungalow is sold I'll have a third of the proceeds to buy a house. I currently live in a rented house and claim housing benefit. Houses are relatively cheap here so I would be able to buy somewhere outright.

My younger son lives in a midlands city about 3 hours from here by train & thinks I should move near him. I've looked for possible places but there's nothing I could buy outright. The only possible option seems to be shared ownership which would mean I'd still have to claim housing benefit.

My eldest son & DIL have just taken over the pub that has been in her family for about 60 years & they're very busy. I had hoped to go and see them during the easter holidays but they're too busy to be able to pick me up at the station.

Youngest son says that if I stay here I'll never see eldest son because he'll be too busy with the pub. If I were to move near him then he'd be able to take me when he goes to see them. Mind you eldest son would still be busy with the pub so I wouldn't get to spend much time with him.

I would love to be able to see more of my grandchildren but I'd also like to have a home that was all mine. I can't afford a home near my son but I can here.

They all drive, I don't. Is it unreasonable to expect them to come and visit me here?