To think the school has not dealt with this well?

You could be overthinking this GT.

#letitgo

Very good!

Better than underthinking any day!

I'd leave it. Just have a word with GD about shouting STOP and meaning it.

Apart from our thinking this is outrageous behaviour my mind is struggling to see the Chitty Chitty Bang Bang /James Bond link and "post-feminist irony " for 11 year-olds linking being tied up with Jane Austen. Could have phrased that better though!
When somebody has a spare half hour, perhaps they could explain it to me?

Grannytwice, are you sure you haven't read the book?

Giosh Anya - you are so right! It's up to my dgd isn't it. And there was my silly dd thinking that maybe the boy shouldn't have been allowed to do it in the first place. Makes you think doesn't it about what the convicted Indian rapost said on the BBC programme the other night about women asking fit it. WIBU to suggest that my dgd be homeschooled so that the boy in her class would have temptation removed from him?

I imagined he must have worn the mask himself! Did he really put it on her? Why would he have done that?

Ha Ha

Oh Soutra! Who wrote JB and CCBB? And what is JA most famous for if not irony?

I think it was so she couldn't identify him otherwise he might have had to kill her- at least that's what his mum has put on her fb page. So really, as the mum said, he was doing my dgd a favour

I'm really concerned that the fact that an 11 year old girl is very upset yet the teacher dismisses it as 'jolly good fun' and is using the child's distress as a means of demonstrating 'post-feminist irony' (whatever that's supposed to mean) and the works of Jane Austen. I'd have been hopping mad.
What author would she have used if ABH had been involved, 'Silence of the Lambs'?
Certainly not being unreasonable GrannyTwice when it comes to a very upset child.

And as for the boy's mother's FB comment .......

Loopylou - it's not real.

What do 11yr olds know about post -feminist irony? I was still on Enid Blyton

They used to call it "learning by doing" in my day - I'm sure all those involved had a valuable learning experience. Apart from, possibly, the teaching staff.
But are you sure you're not getting a bit addled Grannytwice (as we do at our advance age) and thinking about Michael Bond, author of the story recently made into a hugely successful film?

A boy at my primary school thought it was 'a joke' to tie a little girl to a tree in the playground . He ran off back into class and the little girl nearly strangled herself trying to get free, she told the teacher who said she was a tattletale.
She was my best friend and, ending up with serious MH problems for the rest of her life, she committed suicide aged 27.
Until the inquest I didn't know she'd had a horrible young childhood with physical and sexual abuse from her father and other family males-she told the police she was scared what would happen next.
Ok the boy wasn't to know but the teacher dismissed it as 'one of those things'.
It haunts me when teachers are dismissive of a child's complaints, in fact it makes me furious jinglbellsfrocks

Oh dear oh dear - I assumed everyone had read the thread about the 11 year old boy dressing up as Christian Grey? This was my clearly pathetic ironic attempt to show if from another perspective. Clear fail <slinks off for several

Before I raise the glass to my lips, I want to say that I don't think any of this is a laughing matter which is clear from my posts on the original thread- I just wanted to turn it round for another perspective.

No you are not being unreasonable grannytwice the teacher did not handle this situation very well at all. This is not just about feminism but also bullying and respecting other peoples rights to say no. If the situation had been reversed and it was a girl tieing up a boy and putting a mask on him against his will it would be equally wrong. Just flabbergasted I thought we had moved way beyond this.

Serves you right GT. (This is Gransnet - remember?)

Shall I hand you a gun?

I get Ian Fleming, and I get Jane Austen and irony, but I don't see irony in the teachers response, maybe hypocrisy.
Just me.