dirty old men

If I didn't know you as a regular poster, ethel, I'd have thought this was one of those school holiday wind-ups!

You're a grown woman, tell him in no uncertain terms to get lost. Loudly.

Age has nothing to do with it. Once a nasty pervert....always a nasty pervert. He's probably always been like it. Also if he is tipping over into dementia that can make any tendencies more exaggerated.
I'd adopt a Joyce Grenvillel type voice and say....'We don't do that here William (his name), very loudly and clearly.

Yes - do it. Why are you asking what to do? - just tell him to desist.

No Ana this is not a wind up, I am really shocked at his behaviour. As I said I thought all this sort of stuff was forgotten along with the wolf whistles as I said before.

Dementia can make people disinhibited in all sort of ways, including sexually. He may not always have been like it. But you do need to tell him to stop of course.

You can't expect an 88 year old to have kept up with current attitudes, ethel, plus as Hilda and Luckygirl have said, he may be somewhat confused.

I love hildaW approach, may be what he responds too.

At my MiL's first care home there was an 'incident' which caused some problems for the owners with the CQC. Not long afterwards the owners sold up (not as a direct result of the incident, but because they were struggling on a number of levels). We found a new home for MiL.
We discovered some time later, from someone who had worked there, what the incident was - a male resident had crept into one of the women's bedrooms and raped her. She was in her late 80s and utterly traumatised. From what I gather it's a common hazard, but care home owners and managers have a legal responsibility to ensure all the residents' safety. It's definitely not a role for the faint-hearted

ana why should I not expect an 88 yr old to have kept up with current attitudes, he has tv and can watch the news, also I have listened to his chatter to to other members of the group and he talks about his computer, his high spec camera and other modern technology.
Why should he get away with being an old stick in the mud if that is his problem which I don't believe it is, I feel that its like letting an old person be as insulting as they like and saying 'bless they are old they cant help it'.
Sorry, but I think theres no excuse, we all have to adapt to modern ways and his old b......d will have my full temper to deal with when I next see him if he so much as breathes a rude word.

luckygirl I am quite capable of making him cringe with embarrassment or terrify him with some shouted threats but I simply thought it would be supportive (that's what we do on here isn't it)if you lot gave me yur opinions.

Which we have. Tell him to get lost. Or use Hilda's suggestion.

Not sure what else you wanted people to say...

neither am I ana, that's why I posted. However if you don't like it then don't reply. You don't have much useful to say at the best of times anyway.

Nasty.

Sounds like you just wanted somewhere to get it off your chest. Which you have now done. So next time if there is a problem tell him loudly "you are invading my space please move away!". What about asking another male in the group to tall him politely that all members treat each other with respect + his behaviour is unexceptable !

I am going to punch his nose. Ive decided.

Well maybe not, Ive not hit anyone since in the playground when I was 5 but I will say something in a loud voice to make him feel so small he will probably not want to come to the group again lol.

Have a glass of cold water handy and if he comes too close, pick it up and then accidentally spill it on him if he touches you, preferably down the front of his trousers.

Hitting this tiresome man is definitely not the answer. Apart from anything else, you could end up charged with assault. Besides, avoiding physical contact is your aim. Make a loud comment – so everyone in the group hears – about how you don't want him to touch you and don't want to hear his puerile innuendos. Also, is it possible to ask someone else in the group, preferably a well-mannered man, if you could sit/stand beside him because you are being pestered by this fool?

absent, last week the well mannered man in the group said, 'here is your tormentor', just as the nasty man (for want of a better name) came in. They know what hes like I wonder if he has tried it on with any other members. I will ask them.

watch this space I will tell all when I see him next. If I can survive wolf whistles I can get over this.

I'm with Absent just say loudly 'take your crotch out of my face' so that everybody hears. This type of sex pest is used to women feeling intimidated and saying nothing. This is how they operate. Shame him.

Sounds like you have made your feeling known already if the classmate calls him your tormentor , I can't understand why you are still getting grief and the rest of the group aren't helping you

I might ask him if he keeps his money down his pants or maybe just poke him with something to see if it is soft like a tee towel.

I really don't know why you have posted this Etheltbags. When you can deal with Ana so efficiently surely you can deal with an old man of 88! Or are you only able to be do that kind of thing on line?

I think I would have to tell him that he's a very boring, pathetic and silly old man. Laugh at him, walk away, and get on with what you enjoy doing in the class.