Sadiesnan, I can empathise with you. My grumpy old git is 71, nearly 72, but it`s not age or depression, he`s always been like this, but has gone worse in the last few years. I know he`s had a lot of illness and a good bit of time in hospital over the last 2 and a half years, but instead of trying to improve things, he spends all his time either asleep or playing on his PS4. He sits up all night in his bedroom, using lights and gas for the heater, then slumps in his chair asleep for most of the day, whilst muggins here does everything. Oh, I`m sorry, he does take the wheelie bin out on a Wednesday night, and sometimes he even brings it back in the morning, and once every now and again he dries up after I`ve washed up. And he only has a wash if he`s going out anywhere, which isn`t very often.