I so sorry for you, losing your friend, and pleased you are feeling more relaxed about it.
I have a friend, for 20+ years, who has ‘deleted’ two close friends completely in that time. Each time she has confided in me about how thoughtless they were, how selfish, etc. I had thought that they seemed quite reasonable, although of course, we can’t tell what goes on inside close relationships.
Anyway, and unsurprisingly probably, I have been ‘deleted’ by her for up to six months at a time, twice. We have got back in touch, but I no longer put myself out for her or depend on her. She is fun if we meet with a group of friends. She is not, as far I can tell depressed, but (as several people posting here have said) life is FAR too short to get upset by or rely on ‘friends’ who aren’t courteous, reliable or thoughtful.
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