grand daughter buying a car

Sorry to have caused so much controversy. I am not on computer every day and did not know what it would cause. This was my first try at gransnet and I am not used to sharing my life with anybody. Thank you all the ones who seemed to understand. The lunch with my gd did not happen as I was not very well again. She understood and was ok with this. My gd had birthday yesterday and dd had wedding anniversary. My gd was born on my dd 1st anniversary. Also my bf 80th birthday. Nice time was had by all. Take care all posters and forgive us who have less experience with posting. Sorry would have added a smile but am not very comp literate.

What makes me sad on the postings is how many of them are about money. I come from a family where money was not the main thing and it is so distressing that so many families are being broken up about money. Suppose that is modern day living but is a bit sad I think.

What makes me sad on the postings is how many of them are about money. I come from a family where money was not the main thing and it is so distressing that so many families are being broken up about money. Suppose that is modern day living but is a bit sad I think.

Sorry do not know why that was sent twice.

Thank you budds8. You take care. We’ll take the smile as a given. Get your gd to give you some advice, from my experience she’ll have more patience than your dd!

Thank you brismum my dd is very nice and and my gd is away on hols now. I am in my seventies and try hard to keep up with things. Have been laid low since having a fall in March and am trying to keep my spirits up. My dd works in a nursing home so is a very caring person. Really should shut up now as am becoming boring,

Budds please don’t feel you have to apologies for a bit of controversy after you ve been on a while you will realise controversy and niggling happens on nearly every thread even if you started one that said something very bland
Now I hope you start to feel better soon?
I just hope you are not in a controlling relationship as reading between the lines I m sorry to say that comes across, you tell us your daughter is lovely and caring as is your granddaughter but haven’t mentioned your husband since the first post and I find that concerning is he lovely and caring ? that’s a genuine question of concern

I think your husband has been unreasonable. I am a widow with adult children although no grandchildren and I have not remarried. In similar circumstances, I believe I would be the guarantor for granddaughter. In theory, and with the benefit of hindsight, I might discuss it with husband first. However, it is easy for me to make remarks like this after the event having had time to think about it.

Much would depend on our financial situation too.

Dear Budd get better soon. And mega stars for getting to grips with the internet and gransnet! I know if I were unwell I would very much want my DD to visit - and would certainly make that plain to my H. It does, alas, sound as if he is controlling you - which may just be his character or may be for financial gain should you God forbid die earlier. In which case he may be able to live in the house till he dies and gift away most of it to whomever he likes or to a new wife and her children. When you feel able I would certainly go to a solicitor with your will and ask what it implies. Can you do that, or do you rely on him to drive? Could your daughter take you?

Sorry folks have not been on comp for some time. Maybe I should not have been on at all as it is a few years since this happened. My family, my mother and father and other relatives, have never had fallings out about money or any other things. Just expect other families to be the same but obviously this is not the norm. I am just so sorry for my DD as she has been over the years giving my DH presents and fathers day cards etc. and he never gave a sign that he did not like her. Feel he has been very hypocritical and should have said something sooner. By the way my dd and ds's father hanged himself in 1992. So to have taken my DH in to their life was a big thing. My DH has no problem with my ds. Sorry everybody for not being on the posts all the time but life gets in the way some times. Thank you all for being there even if some of the comments have been negative. I am not used to posting and find it quite difficult.

budds8- you are very welcome here. Just pop in and out as you feel like it. There are some lovely posters and good advice to be had.
Don't worry about controversy, it all adds to life's rich pattern!