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4allweknow Sun 08-Jul-18 17:35:41

Afraid it's yet another neighbour moan. Music thumping for hours from neighbours garden. Warm weather neighbours out in garden playing music that has nothing but a deep thumping base when it reaches my house. We have a lovely garden, small summer house and can't go in either for the noise. Neighbours actually have a speaker outside. Driving me mad. Husband is hearing impaired but he can even feel the noise. We are detached houses. Oh, noise stopped, DH up on garden chair looking over 2 mtr fence, shouted 3 times to attract attention and has asked for music to be turned down a bit. The relief, just hope it lasts. Neighbours are good usually, late 30s so not exactly in the flush of youth. Gold star to DH.

Teetime Sun 08-Jul-18 17:40:31

There is a lot more noise when windows and doors are pen in this heat - it wont last long!!

Luckygirl Sun 08-Jul-18 19:17:44

You have all my sympathy -I am dreadful when it comes to that sort of noise pollution. I cannot understand why someone would think you want to listen to their music - what can be going on in their heads?

annep Sun 08-Jul-18 19:20:20

Good for your DH.

janemar Sun 08-Jul-18 20:16:13

I do not mind music or people having a good time as it doesnt seem to happen often, my noise hate is barking dogs and strimmers.

paddyann Sun 08-Jul-18 21:26:39

I'm very guilty of loud music ,usually inside the house loud enough so I can hear it outside and at 64 I'm far from the first flush of youth ..I just like my music loud .I can often be found dancing round the house or garden too .Does that make me a bad person? Surely music now and again isn't a problem ? Our neighbours had a party last weekend that lasted until 4.30 am ,massive marquee,Bar-b -que still going after midnight ,people singing and shouting across the garden.Its not often it happens so no issues for us even though we had a 6am start ..well at least we didn't sleep in .

Iam64 Sun 08-Jul-18 21:31:05

I think we're fairly quiet these days, other than when the squirrel or neighbours cat sits on the fence, waving at the dogs so they'll bark and get shouted at.

We had our adult children, their small children, our dogs and one of their dogs round the other day. Paddling pool in the garden, small children racing about making lots of noise. adult children having loud conversations from the kitchen out into the garden and so on. I glanced over the fence as I brought some washing in and realised our neighbours, whose house is for sale, were showing prospective buyers round. I do hope our noisy afternoon didn't put them off.

Luckygirl Sun 08-Jul-18 22:13:54

There is a huge difference between children enjoying themselves in a paddling pool or a party once a year and people regularly playing their music so loudly that all the neighbours are obliged to listen to what they enjoy. I think that is just plain rude - sorry paddyann but I think you are being very inconsiderate. Why should your neighbours want to hear your music? It really is unacceptable.

I love above anything sitting in the garden enjoying the view and the peace. There is some traffic noise, people mowing their gardens, or chatting as they go by. There is a world of a difference between that and deliberately playing loud music in the full knowledge that everyone else will also be obliged to listen to it too. I think that is just arrogant.

lemongrove Sun 08-Jul-18 22:26:17

I agree with Lucky neighbours should be considerate of one another.
Having a word, if it happens again ( more than a one off) is a reasonable thing to do.

Bathsheba Sun 08-Jul-18 22:58:08

Yes Lucky, spot on - it is arrogance to play music very loudly, knowing that neighbours will be forced to listen to it. I just like my music loud. Well, the clue is in the word "my" - it's not everyone else's music, so what gives you the right to impose it on them Paddyann? I like music on loud as well but since we're not fortunate enough to live in the middle of a field, away from other people, I accept that this is one pleasure I am unable to indulge in. Buy yourself some headphones.

Melanieeastanglia Sun 08-Jul-18 23:20:10

This hot weather won't last forever so, if the neighbours are good in general terms, I'd be wary of falling out with them. Your husband seems to have managed to get them to turn it down so I hope, for your sake, they don't turn the music up again.

If it's a rare occurrence, I'd be inclined to put up with it and I do speak from experience. It's much easier to be on good terms with neighbours.

Good luck!

annep Mon 09-Jul-18 00:02:57

I don't think its nice to impose your music on the neighbours. unless of course its Leonard Cohen ( only joking). I dance in the house but not in the garden. However whatever lights your candle Paddyann!

M0nica Mon 09-Jul-18 08:49:50

We live in a village, next door but one to one of the village pubs. They always drop a note through the letterboxes of adjoining houses when they think any planned event might cause noise pollution.

I cannot see why someone planning a big party at home cannot do the same.

PamelaJ1 Mon 09-Jul-18 09:18:47

We are considerate of our neighbours and they seem to be of us.
At least the lawn mowers aren’t creating any noise at the moment!

Bluegal Mon 09-Jul-18 09:44:59

Agree that constant very loud music from neighbours could be annoying but you know, we are having the best summer we have had for years and people are spending more time out of doors than ever and having more gatherings. Sometimes the 'moment' outweighs thoughts for neighbours. I think a little more tolerance should be exercised in general.

You say your neighbours are in their 30's and generally very good? In this instance, I would have put on ear plugs or gone out or done anything other than complain as sounds like a one off to me. In this case, yes I think you and hubby ABU. Sorry but....really.... a one off occasion because of the wonderful weather?

pheasant75 Mon 09-Jul-18 10:03:42

Sorry to hear your problems contact the local environmental health dept. at your council .they can enforce unreasonable noise and behavior with neighbors and your details will not be disclosed. it is the only way to put an end to this sort of problem. don't put up with it especially in this hot weather,
it is alright other comments saying lovely weather but in my experiences younger generations need some lessons just look at the press only today an ambulance was destroyed in London and a younger man jumped off a double Decker bus and injured women.
I speak with a lot of parents and grandparent all have same problem my 3 grown up all in there 40,s they will not listen good luck

Wilma65 Mon 09-Jul-18 10:03:46

I’m annoyed with our neighbours too. I was laying in bed with a headache and the neighbours decided to sit outside smoking and all the smoke came in the bedroom. The neighbours the other side sit out the back smoking and all the smoke comes in the lounge. Makes me feel sick. The trouble is with the hot weather we need to get some air in. Also the ones that smoke out the back had landscaped their garden, loud music and cement mixer going. They’ve put in a swing seat that faces the house and looks directly into The bedroom window, then yesterday they’ve installed a wood burner/BBQ in the back garden it’d about 2 foot from our fence and greenhouse and only 6 foot from our back door. They haven’t started using it yet but I’m dreading the smoke and fumes. That’s the trouble with livein in a terraced house
I need to win the lottery so that we can move.

dragonfly46 Mon 09-Jul-18 10:04:00

I really hate hearing other people's music. Lawn mowers etc are a necessary evil but playing music regularly so all the neighbours can hear is definitely a no no in my book.

Bluegal Mon 09-Jul-18 10:21:40

hmm pheasant75 Are you for real? The key statement in your post is 'unreasonable noise and behaviour' I am sure this would have to constitute more than one day of merriment.....no?

SpringyChicken Mon 09-Jul-18 10:24:08

It’s selfish to inflict loud music on neighbours regularly., just as antisocial as lighting a bonfire or a barking dog. And even if the music is to everyone’s taste, it doesn’t sound great when heard further away.

I’m not bothered by the occasional party with loud music and tolerate it. What I can’t stand is wind chimes inflicted on me. Thankfully, none of the close neighbours have them.

grandtanteJE65 Mon 09-Jul-18 10:26:01

We keep our windows shut if we want to turn music up loud, and never take music out into the garden. Fortunately, our neighbours are equally as considerate.

I've noticed too that here nobody mows grass or cuts hedges before 8 or 9 in the morning on weekdays and much later than that at the weekend.

I realise we are lucky in our neighbours, so we keep these unwritten rules too.

BiblioQueen Mon 09-Jul-18 10:26:43

I absolutely agree with others that it's the height of selfishness to ruin your neighbours' gardens with your choice of loud music - hot summer or not. No excuse. paddyann you should be more considerate- if you were my neighbour I'd be furious. One's person's favourite music is another's horrible noise and why do you so arrogantly and selfishly think your neighbours all want to listen to your choice of music? Get your headphones on if you want to dance to loud music!!! I fear it's part of a general selfishness that seems to be taking hold where people assume they can scream on their mobile phones, shout in restaurants etc and no-one will mind. However, the volume of muzak in restaurants in this country (doesn't happen so much in Europe where they prefer conversation rather than pounding music while they eat) means that everyone has to shout these days. Grim. 4allweknow, I share your annoyance, I was on the verge of a nervous breakdown a few years ago when we the girl next door had her ghetto blaster pounding in the garden all day long. Unfair. Luckily she's grown up and moved away but I still have a residual phobia about using my garden in case it starts up again, her younger borther's choice of music is loud rap which gets going occasionally from his bedroom window. When I complained by the way I was accused of being racist -because I didn't like "Black people's music" - there's an irony: reggae is a favourite of mine, but I would listen to it in my house at a resaonable volume or on my (noise-cancelling - there's a solution?) headphones!

Marieeliz Mon 09-Jul-18 10:33:45

Its the inconsideration and "I must have it my way". My friends neighbours had a party Saturday, she went to bed and could not sleep, not so much the noise but a blazing light shining right into her house. Once upon a time you told your neighbours or invited them to a party.

Paddyann glad I do not live near you. You are being inconsiderate but that's ok as long as you can do what you want?

dragonfly46 Mon 09-Jul-18 10:34:25

Well said Biblio!

4allweknow Mon 09-Jul-18 10:36:55

Wilma65. Your neighbours sound very selfish. With regard the wood burning so close you check with local authority as there are loads of restrictions on wood burning e.g. you may be in a smokeless zone, only certain types of wood can be burned in a wood burning stove even indoors. You have a case of pollution!